Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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babyrena 01/14/2015

Hey everyone! Just dropped in to say hi! Been going through an irdeal. My middle daughter disclosed on my two exes. Pothead and the drunk. I first joined this group because my oldest back ten years ago disclosed on my ex husband. Well I'm back again. I reported these two men. But there was no penetration or damage done physically. They fondled her. So we are waiting go see if they are doing anything as far as prosecuting them or if they don't have enough evidence. Or if either confesses to the crime. I have her and I in counseling. Plus my younger daughter one of the perps is her dad so I have her in counsel ing. I'm hurting emotionall . And questioning my.parenthood
Feeling as mother a failure. Why didn't I see the signs. How could I pick from m any guys. Two more perpetrator. Just some things going through my mind .
So prayers good thoughts requested . lots of cyber ((((hugs)))
Thank you
P.s. I'm currently single taking care of my kids. Unemployed too. So the struggle is a struggle. But I believe things happen for a reason and my middle daughter since has improved a lot 3,50 GPA in 8th grade and in band and just started basketball. Before was a loner and now is making great friends

babyrena 01/14/2015

I believe my middle daughter disclosing has helped her. I diligently tell her its not her faul . I believed her....which I might add was hard to do because I didn't want to believe her. But because I didn't want her to think I turned on her or make her feel alone or afraid I never protect her I forced myself to report the crime. Later as time moved on I started seeing her improvement and her smile and then I started remembering different signs and red flags from before. So belief came later and now acceptance and getting help for us.

Confused2013 01/14/2015

I am so sorry you are going through this. You can not doubt your being a mother, this is not your fault. Abusive ppl are great manipulators. You are doing exactly what any good mother/parent would do and that is having your kids in counseling. I wish I could offer good advice. I am sending tons and strength and prayers and lots of cyber hugs!!!! :)

cant74deal 01/14/2015

I'm so sorry for what happened. Your daughter is doing better because of things you did as a mother to help her. You need to find a way to forgive yourself for what happened to her, they are responsible for their actions, and as soon as you knew you took action, even though it was hard. Have you thought about counseling for yourself as well?

gem111 01/14/2015

Oh baby,
I am so, so very sorry. DAMN, you do deserve a break.
One thing, try not to question the past. The past is the past and everything that happened, can not be changed, so please do not feel bad about anything you did or didn't do in the past.
All you can do baby, is the best you can do from here forward.
It sounds like that is exactly what you are doing.
Things will get better, hang in there my friend!!!!
((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))

IleneW 01/14/2015

Hon ----

Please love yourself
and know that you're
perfect as is.

You're doing what
you're supposed
to be doing.

You've been on a
very tough journey
and you're still
traveling. You're
on your way to
your destination.

Please take good
care of yourself.

Sending you hugs
and prayers for only
good things in your
path, for yourself
and your children.

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