Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
He called me, just now and I missed the call (timestamp said by one minute). I called him back (I tried about 15 times and left a voicemail, so I am sure he is ignoring my calls--calling one minute later...) I also texted him and left a message on instant message.
I did not tell him about what my last post asked--but I was planning to. I know he is mad at me for not buying the tickets, and he is planning on shutting me out of his life. I think that I am the abusive one.
He is probably going to shut me out of his life now (rightfully so). Do I need to go to therapy? I fit some of the emotional abuse questions from the list that was posted a few threads below: I lied about my school situation and many times promised to go to where he is and did not. I also did not buy his ticket. If you need more information about my situation, see my first post please (it is described in detail).
I did not tell him about what my last post asked--but I was planning to. I know he is mad at me for not buying the tickets, and he is planning on shutting me out of his life. I think that I am the abusive one.
He is probably going to shut me out of his life now (rightfully so). Do I need to go to therapy? I fit some of the emotional abuse questions from the list that was posted a few threads below: I lied about my school situation and many times promised to go to where he is and did not. I also did not buy his ticket. If you need more information about my situation, see my first post please (it is described in detail).
Sleep deprivation, not caring about the things that are important to you, controlling you, telling you what you can do when you can do it...is very abusive. You are in a masters degree program, and on the verge of losing that dream.
A life with an abuser is misery. IleneW told you you need to go No Contact. and you do. This man does not love you. He is not capable of love. How do I know? Because he is textbook...textbook abusive.
He broke up with you, but then continues to contact you. It was a manipulation, to gain control. He was nice in his last call, because he senses that you are gaining strength. If he exercises this much control and abuse when you are not even together, can you imagine what he will do when you are physically in the same place?
Tell you what, think about going PRO-active. Shut him out of YOUR life. You deserve better....
Hugs...