I think there is all sorts of abuse out there. If you feel not right about the way someone is treating you, and others tell you it is not ok...then Iam sure you have a problem.
stay safe

If it feels wrong, then it's not right. Whether a label fits or not is less important than your own sense of what feels right.

Also, if you feel abused and you cannot raise it, cannot have it dealt with, then you more than likely are abused.

If something hurts, and it hurts more than once or once in awhile, then there's a problem and it needs attention.

Sweetie, I read your profile.

You absolutely deserve to recover.

If you're feeling any way other than that, it's a result of your having been hurt.

Please reach out for help.

If you're feeling abused most likely you are being abused.

Ok, next issue; does it/I matter or my feelings.

I'm not totally clear about what you're asking, but let me take some guesses.

First ----- your feelings totally matter.

YOU matter. Your feelings matter.
Your life matters.

Second ----- if you're asking, does being abused matter. . . .

Being abused is an abomination against everything right.

If you're being abused (and you wouldn't be here, if you weren't being abused), you need to take action steps to get away from the abuse. Your profile says you're 18. That means that you've just become a young adult, and are now a legal adult and can do things legally you couldn't have done last year. You can go to a women's center and they will deal with you as an adult woman.

Try it. Call them. Visit them. Ask for help.

It MATTERS.

YOU MATTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!