Pet Bereavement Support Group

The loss of a pet or animal to which one has become emotionally bonded can be an intense loss, comparable with the death of a loved one. Whilst there is strong evidence that animals can feel such loss for other animals, this community focuses on human feelings, when an animal is lost, dies or otherwise is departed.

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faithtofly 02/19/2011

My girlfriend Angela found or baby boy Jake dead on the side of the road yesterday , he was hit by a car, he died instantly , and i think my heart died yesterday with him, he was like my son .i will never be the same, after seeing him stiff and lifeless his skull crushed seeing the blood on him not moving. I cant seem to hold it together.Im not an emotional person but now i cant handle it. I just loved him so much, and he died alone.

deleted_user 02/19/2011

(((hugz))) I'm SO sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved Jake. My heart goes out to you both.

Of course you're going through a very emotionally turbulent time right now. After all, it's normal to grieve when a dear pet passes but in your case, you had to see his lifeless body on the road.

You sound like a very loving pet owner so just remember the good life you gave to Jake while he was with you and hopefully that will give you comfort in the days and weeks to come.

angel42 02/19/2011

I am so sorry for your loss. I'm so sorry you had to find your beloved furbaby that way. My heart goes out to you.

I hope in time you can remember all the good times with Jake. He was very lucky to have such a warm and loving home.

My prayers go out to you during this very difficult time.

deleted_user 02/21/2011

I am so sorry for your loss. What you are going through is very traumatic and impossible to wrap your head around. My advice to you is to allow yourself to feel however it is that you're feeling at any given time. You have to allow yourself to grieve.

The sight of him that you are describing is very fresh in your mind right now and may be for some time, but it will not be as traumatic of a memory as each day goes by. Please don't let yourself feel guilty as this happens because it's part of the grieving process.

That's the one thing that I've learned from my pet loss. The guilt may be normal, but I had to let it go just as I did my beloved dog. They live forever in our hearts and memories!

deleted_user 02/23/2011

I am very sorry for your loss of Jake. Take this time to grieve and be kind and sensitive to yourself. I say this because when I lost my boy, one wrong word by someone would start me crying - and that's just fine. What helped me heal was realizing he was in a safe place and was happy. I planted a plant for him, made myself goals, tried to stay positive, and keeping a journal to watch my own progress. I know things seem empty right now and I wish you a lot of strength in the next while.

deleted_user 03/05/2011

My condolences. I found out that my puppy died the same way yesterday only the neighbours lied and told me he was stolen so I found out only now - some 5 years after. It's supposed to be better but although I've been robbed of a very traumatic experience, which you are going through, of seeing my little gorgeous puppy smashed like that, I feel I've been robbed of my right to bury and mourn him - however painful. It's the least he deserved after all the love he'd given me, to have a get together in his honour.

deleted_user 04/04/2011

This breaks my heart. I would feel as you do, I know it. But I believe that our pets have souls. He didn't die alone, love .Before he ever knew what had happened you filled his heart with love. Call on him to come comfort you, you may be surprised.
I'm so sorry you saw him as you did. Hard as it may be, do your best to focus on another time. Use a picture - or a memory. Most of all ... remember ... he wasn't alone. Hugs.

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