Personality Disorders Support Group

Personality disorders form a class of mental disorders that are characterized by long-lasting rigid patterns of thought and behaviour. Personality disorders are seen by the American Psychiatric Association as an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it.

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Sick of this

WhySoSerious
WhySoSerious
Realised that when you have BPD people don't stick around to long...they portray that there gonna stay, and they like you, then when things get tricky they vanish without a trace...one things for sure never trust anyone
magicsls
magicsls
I hate people
walkingthewhiteline
walkingthewhiteline
I hate this disorder for making me feel unlovable. My husband has stayed, but I'm guessing it is because divorces are expensive and tiring. He tells me he loves me constantly and I want to believe it, but his actions don't show it.
WhySoSerious
WhySoSerious
Is that because you feel that because you don't love yourself, that nobody else could either?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Your right!! not many stick around. I hate this disorder. Especially since I cannot take part in the DBT because of scheduling. It's at 10 in the morning. I have school and I'm about to be on extern I cannot miss my extern. I drop a letter grade everyday I miss.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yeah i always feel my hubby stays cos of the baby and also its convienient!
No matter what he says otherwise!
DivineSilence
DivineSilence
I think it is important to try to see both sides..... I know that's something you guys have trouble with but sometimes you are villianizing people who don't deserve it. Did I run from my mother? Hell yes I did. Has she villianized me? Yes she has. I am a horrible person for "leaving her". However she refused to see what her abuse did to me and refused to accept that I have the right to protect myself from further harm.

I'm not trying to say that it is always the fault of the person with the BPD but you guys know that you engage in behavior that pushes people away.... so why when you push them away do they become the bad guy for leaving?
DivineSilence
DivineSilence
Sorry, I phrased that badly and I shouldn't have generalized because it is certainly not everyone with BPD who acts this way. It just seems to me that there is a subset of people with BPD who play the victim... it doesn't matter what they have done or said it is always them that is the victim. When a relationship breaks down, whether it is a friendship, family member, or lover... there are alway 2 people involved and 2 people responsible. My pet peeve is people who refuse to take any responsibility for their own actions, thoughts, or words. If every single relationship you have ever had has been lost then maybe it is time to take an honest look at your own behavior and your own responsibility.....

This BTW is one of the core concepts of DBT. Taking responsibility.