Personality Disorders Support Group
Personality disorders form a class of mental disorders that are characterized by long-lasting rigid patterns of thought and behaviour. Personality disorders are seen by the American Psychiatric Association as an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it.
I am so FAR from perfect. I am pretty clear about my faults, frailties and even baggage! I have never, ever been deduced to so many negative characteristics in such a short amount of time in my life until recently!
I have been told that "I do NOT know how to be a FRIEND" when I have several friends from childhood that I communicate with and see when their lives and mine aren't so busy! I've been told that I "Don't want to be happy" Geez! The last time I checked I'm quite content with a few minor adjustments that need to be made and some grief and loss issues that I need to work on within myself but other than that I feel pretty good and I experience PURE JOY when I am in the presence of AUTHENICITY!
I've been told that "I am not supportive, I'm degrading when I speak, "I am taking potshots, jabs and throwing up one's past in their face" Here I thought I was giving out food for thought perhaps even making suggestions that one might want to consider when it comes to why their lives appears to repeat the same scenario yet with different people. I thought that's what ALL friends did for one another! I thought friends had no problem with bouncing ideas and suggestions off of one another without being ACCUSED of throwing up someone's past in a negative way! Since I don't know how to be a friend I guess I was wrong according to what I learned about ME today! I've been called "Negative" accused of being the cause of one developing HBP, throwing up walls and not letting one in etc.
IF all you wanted was to be SINGLE and not be in a relationship how hard was it to say that without...excuse me if I use your wording, degrading remarks that you made to me today?
I suppose the TIME has come for me to take a GOOD, LONG, LOOK at ME! Perhaps there may be a grain of truth in all the things that I have been accused of. The least I can do for ME is, TAKE A GOOD LONG LOOK AT SELF AND TAKE CARE OF ME!
So, without the risk of SAYING ANYTHING THAT I KNOW WILL BE USED AGAINST ME and here I thought I was a DECENT human being, far from perfect, but at the least decent, I will do what I heard a friend of mine tell me long ago.
I will SAY ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! From here on out, I have NOTHING to OFFER ANYONE at least until I FIX ALL OF THE FLAWS THAT I've been told that I have that I was unaware of!
At least if I say nothing I won't be ACCUSED of anything! But then again the perception of the RECEIVER is always RIGHT in their mind regardless if it is FACT or in their mind!
TIME to TAKE CARE OF ME!!!!
I have been told that "I do NOT know how to be a FRIEND" when I have several friends from childhood that I communicate with and see when their lives and mine aren't so busy! I've been told that I "Don't want to be happy" Geez! The last time I checked I'm quite content with a few minor adjustments that need to be made and some grief and loss issues that I need to work on within myself but other than that I feel pretty good and I experience PURE JOY when I am in the presence of AUTHENICITY!
I've been told that "I am not supportive, I'm degrading when I speak, "I am taking potshots, jabs and throwing up one's past in their face" Here I thought I was giving out food for thought perhaps even making suggestions that one might want to consider when it comes to why their lives appears to repeat the same scenario yet with different people. I thought that's what ALL friends did for one another! I thought friends had no problem with bouncing ideas and suggestions off of one another without being ACCUSED of throwing up someone's past in a negative way! Since I don't know how to be a friend I guess I was wrong according to what I learned about ME today! I've been called "Negative" accused of being the cause of one developing HBP, throwing up walls and not letting one in etc.
IF all you wanted was to be SINGLE and not be in a relationship how hard was it to say that without...excuse me if I use your wording, degrading remarks that you made to me today?
I suppose the TIME has come for me to take a GOOD, LONG, LOOK at ME! Perhaps there may be a grain of truth in all the things that I have been accused of. The least I can do for ME is, TAKE A GOOD LONG LOOK AT SELF AND TAKE CARE OF ME!
So, without the risk of SAYING ANYTHING THAT I KNOW WILL BE USED AGAINST ME and here I thought I was a DECENT human being, far from perfect, but at the least decent, I will do what I heard a friend of mine tell me long ago.
I will SAY ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! From here on out, I have NOTHING to OFFER ANYONE at least until I FIX ALL OF THE FLAWS THAT I've been told that I have that I was unaware of!
At least if I say nothing I won't be ACCUSED of anything! But then again the perception of the RECEIVER is always RIGHT in their mind regardless if it is FACT or in their mind!
TIME to TAKE CARE OF ME!!!!
If everyone is saying the same things, maybe there's something to learn.
Maybe you could start by apologizing to some of them saying you had no idea you were doing anything hurtful and that you want to fix it.
If you are sincere, maybe they will tell you what you have done and why it's hurtful. Don't get defensive; just listen.
You sound reasonable and maybe it would be good for both parties.
Best of luck in this journey.
But thanks for your input.