Personality Disorders Support Group

Personality disorders form a class of mental disorders that are characterized by long-lasting rigid patterns of thought and behaviour. Personality disorders are seen by the American Psychiatric Association as an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it.

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soretum 02/17/2015

Hi everyone,
A young friend of mine has BPD among other things. She knows I'm there for her. (I'm 50 and have known her since birth).
I want to know how to offer my help and support in a way that is meaningful for her. She's struggling just now as she's had three friends suicide this month.
Thanks in advance.

Tusitalo 02/17/2015

Validate her emotions and let her feel them.
Do not try to get her out of feeling what she is feeling.....

Its called validating speech is important when dealing with people with BPD.

soretum 02/17/2015

Thank you so much. That's pretty much what I have been doing. I'm keen to support her and want to do it in a way that is helpful to her. It breaks my heart to see her and so many struggle with BPD.

DeliAnnem 02/17/2015

I'd suggest just being her soft place to fall. But be careful about boundaries. They are VERY important to enforce with BPD, or you'll only be enabling the behavior she (hopefully) wants to improve.

Read "Walking on Eggshells."

Hugs.

Tusitalo 02/18/2015

Other two god very updated books are "the BPD survival guide" and "BPD demystified" they are very recently written.
Which makes difference since in the last 10-15 years they has been a lot more understanding of BPD.

soretum 02/18/2015

Thank you so much. My whole life I've struggled setting boundaries and will keep my eye on the ball this time.

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