Personality Disorders Support Group
Personality disorders form a class of mental disorders that are characterized by long-lasting rigid patterns of thought and behaviour. Personality disorders are seen by the American Psychiatric Association as an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it.
My mother has bpd
My aunt and her daughter as well. The daughters son is my issue. He's had a poor childhood and last November long long story short got kicked out his grandmother's where he was living. It was not his fault. He lashed out at ALL family. He moved in with girl and family hr barely knew. In 2008 he had a conversion episode which lasted 6-8 months. Mother failed to get treatment, last year I got him into counseling but not enough for diagnosis, she wondered bi polar cause his mood can change so erratic
history: asthma, allergies, has threatened suicide,
We took a road trip and just got back. This is most time we've been together in 2 years. Highlights
he swore the truck his future father in law bought got 25-30 miles per gallon, so I budgeted based on 25/gallon. We used up the budget before half way. He expects me to to still pay 70% as I agreed*um I agreex based on 25/gallon. Since figured out its 17.3 at best. I also have to pay. Lodging and food and his fiance is with us. He's 18, she's 17 they've been together since November, like 9 months.
He swears my math on the mileage is wrong and the reason we went 60-70% over budget is because 25% of the fuel was purchased above the budgeted $3.50/gallon.
anything his girl says is 100% truth, try to correct him and you get yelled at.
He has trouble hearing me and when I repeat it he thinks I'm mad, yelling and upset so he gets mad, upset and yells.
If I suggest doing something he imagines I yelled at him etc as above and he lashes out.
if he demands something IMMEDIATELY and he sees you in a hurry he assumes the above and reacts etc.
he is also treating me like the child when I am 34. I quit trying to reason with him, I was physically abused as a child and one episode today was so bad I had to take an ativan that I use for panic attacks.
I care and love this boy but I think its time to end this relationship, does this sound like bpd?
My aunt and her daughter as well. The daughters son is my issue. He's had a poor childhood and last November long long story short got kicked out his grandmother's where he was living. It was not his fault. He lashed out at ALL family. He moved in with girl and family hr barely knew. In 2008 he had a conversion episode which lasted 6-8 months. Mother failed to get treatment, last year I got him into counseling but not enough for diagnosis, she wondered bi polar cause his mood can change so erratic
history: asthma, allergies, has threatened suicide,
We took a road trip and just got back. This is most time we've been together in 2 years. Highlights
he swore the truck his future father in law bought got 25-30 miles per gallon, so I budgeted based on 25/gallon. We used up the budget before half way. He expects me to to still pay 70% as I agreed*um I agreex based on 25/gallon. Since figured out its 17.3 at best. I also have to pay. Lodging and food and his fiance is with us. He's 18, she's 17 they've been together since November, like 9 months.
He swears my math on the mileage is wrong and the reason we went 60-70% over budget is because 25% of the fuel was purchased above the budgeted $3.50/gallon.
anything his girl says is 100% truth, try to correct him and you get yelled at.
He has trouble hearing me and when I repeat it he thinks I'm mad, yelling and upset so he gets mad, upset and yells.
If I suggest doing something he imagines I yelled at him etc as above and he lashes out.
if he demands something IMMEDIATELY and he sees you in a hurry he assumes the above and reacts etc.
he is also treating me like the child when I am 34. I quit trying to reason with him, I was physically abused as a child and one episode today was so bad I had to take an ativan that I use for panic attacks.
I care and love this boy but I think its time to end this relationship, does this sound like bpd?
I have BPD myself, and unfortunately only the person can answer it by checking out the DSM-IV, taking a look at the criteria, seeing if it fits their behavior, and seeing a professional.
Hope all goes well for you.
Remember to use "I feel this" and "that makes me feel" etc so things are less threatening in his mind. It is difficult but he will only learn in time with someones love and understanding how to understand himself and maybe slowly get better. Try not to give up. This sickness of the mind is lonesome enough on its own. Good luck