Personality Disorders Support Group
Personality disorders form a class of mental disorders that are characterized by long-lasting rigid patterns of thought and behaviour. Personality disorders are seen by the American Psychiatric Association as an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it.
Am I being paranoid? It feels as if my live-in boyfriend is trying to turn my 16-year-old son against me. Over the past couple of days, my bf has been having whispered conversations with my son to "teach him how to deal with me." My bf has been using my son as a confidant when he gets frustrated with my BPD symptoms, which I don't feel is fair to either my son or me. Yesterday, though, they both sat down and started having a discussion about me while I was in the room, but they referred to me in the third person as if I wasn't there. They CLAIM that it is so I don't feel ganged up upon, but it had the opposite effect. Instead, I feel like I am totally alone in this house, now. My bf never has anything encouraging to say to me, and now he's spouting poison against me to my son. My bf is a master-manipulator (his own admission), and he spins every thing I say in defense as a BPD-induced lie designed to "distract from the real issues." I can't defend myself, and I can't get an ounce of empathy. I can't even leave, because THAT gets used against me as a BPD behavior.
What do I do? How can I go on in this toxic environment. I've started having self-harming thoughts (and worse) as a result of this situation. If I'm not here, then at least I'm not hurting anyone anymore. That seems to be the main accusation is that I emotionally hurt everyone in the household.
Has anyone else ever had their family turn against them so completely?
What do I do? How can I go on in this toxic environment. I've started having self-harming thoughts (and worse) as a result of this situation. If I'm not here, then at least I'm not hurting anyone anymore. That seems to be the main accusation is that I emotionally hurt everyone in the household.
Has anyone else ever had their family turn against them so completely?
He has NO RIGHT to speak with your son about you in this way!
First of all, unless your son is 18 or older - your bf is putting your son into something that as a child - he doesn't need to be. The situation about your BPD is something you and your son should talk about - your son should not get his information from a third party. This is so sick.
You say your bf doesn't give you any support. What the heck are you doing in the relationship then? Isn't that what a relationship is supposed to be about? Helping each other through the hard times and celebrating our good times? You say you can't leave - I'm not sure why? Anything would be better than to have this man destroy your self-esteem and corrupt the mindset of your son.
Please consider getting out of this very toxic relationship - if you can't do it for yourself then at least do it for your son. He will not come out of this unscathed.
Sending hugs and prayers your way.