Personality Disorders Support Group

Personality disorders form a class of mental disorders that are characterized by long-lasting rigid patterns of thought and behaviour. Personality disorders are seen by the American Psychiatric Association as an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it.

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tempertemper 05/31/2011

Hi just joined the group as I was just diagnosed with bdp by mental health team. I was told by my doctor "not to worrie" u grow out of it in ur 40's to 50's, Im 41 now and dont seem to be any diffrent from my 20's apart from Im awear of my strange behaviour now and I stay away from relationships as there no good for me, Is there a light at the end of the tunnel will it get better or is this it.....

deleted_user 05/31/2011

I stay away from relationshps too........hrmm so far i haven't "grown out" of anything.
The only thing that's happened i use avoidance for almost everything......sorry...I'm not the bearer of good news..

theloveisgone 06/01/2011

Most Dr.s have no idea what to make of BPD and at best have at least heard of it. I know that with many years of therapy you can find some happiness if only with yourself. Good luck and hugs

CrossingtheBorder 06/01/2011

I don't believe you grow out of anything. The only way Bpd is going to get better is if you put in the time and effort to get better. And tjhat includes intense therapy with Dbt classes.

gmason 06/01/2011

I do not believe that you grow out of it except for personal and radical change. By the time most of us reach 40 people have either given up, or gone the suicide route. So statistically it seems to abate, but in reality it does not.

DivineSilence 06/01/2011

I thik that over time you may learn better coping skills and thus the symptoms of BPD may lessen as you age.

tempertemper 06/01/2011

Thanks to every one that responded. I think that i have learnt to cope myself by cutting myself off from the world I dont think I deal with any situation any better I just dont put myself in the situation..... Does anyone live in the uk as I would be gratefull if you could share you experience with your mental health team as I feel like i've been given a diagnosis and pretty much left to get on with it!
I think I was better off not knowing......

deleted_user 06/01/2011

I was told when I was diagnosed that, with treatment, a patient with BPD may no longer qualify for a diagnosis after 5 years. The patient may still have borderline traits.

The treatment options she talked about were DBT and mentalization. I don't know much about mentalization therapy except that the point is to analyze all of the possible outcomes of a scenario and try to determine the likelihood of each.

Siyaya 06/01/2011

Staying away from relationships is so sad. But that's what I'm doing too because nothing has been able help me in that regard. Some time ago I read a book by a German professor who is like No1 on BDP in Germany and it said that borderliners who don't get help often get worse with old age....and he thinks that it's just that not enough research has been done on middle-aged and elderly persons with BDP. The symptoms change with the years (for those who survive) and apparently some others manage to qualify as non BDP although they still have BDP traits.

deleted_user 06/01/2011

i dont think u grow out of it. im 15, and been living with BPD for about 3 years. it just gets worse and worse every day. everyday it seems harder and harder. although i hope it will be different for you

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