Personality Disorders Support Group
Personality disorders form a class of mental disorders that are characterized by long-lasting rigid patterns of thought and behaviour. Personality disorders are seen by the American Psychiatric Association as an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it.
I have a friend in the hospital, the psychiatric ward of it. I talked to him twice today but feel awkward doing so since I don't know what to say. I dont know if its good to ask him why hes in there but he did hint at it. I was there not to long ago and when I talked to my friends outside the hospital I felt the same way even though I was the one in. I feel awkward writing this to. I care for him and I want him to feel better and safe but Im not good at doing feelings. I know part of it is that I have feelings for him for more then friendship that have developed over the past few months, which I never planed on happening. Even without that I still feel very shy and awkward around him at times. A mural friend is going to visit him and I plan on making a card but I have no clue on what to write. He is a very shy and introverted person so that adds on the awkwardness level. Id visit also but I was at the same place not to long ago and I cant see him since they have a six month rule with seeing people there if you were there on the psy ward. I going to miss seeing him but I feel better that he was wise enough to get help instead of hurting himself or another. Any advice? I really care about him as a person. Thanks for listing Ponygirl74.
belle
Tell him how you feel. Tell him you don't really know what to say and be honest. But also let him know you care for him and what he is going through and that he decided to get help. That you would visit if it weren't for that rule. You told us on here. Now tell him. Tell him to write you back and if he feels he can share why he is in that you would understand but if he can't then that would be fine too. Tell him you will be there for him when he is ready and that he is a special friend or maybe more. Like I said just be honest in the way you feel and encourage him.
ponygirl74
I kinda did, I do encourage him all the time. It's just been a long time that I've ever cared for a person this much. I want him to be well and happy. When he smiles it just brightens up a room and my day. I have this strange fear that dated back to when my Aunt died. I blamed her death on me, because I loved her with all my hear and soul. She meant the world to me and then she passed on-from cancer. My world came crashing down. I never let anyone else that close to me not even my ex boyfriend though I loved him. I didn't open up to him the way I do with this friend. He knows stuff about me that would scare off most people but he hasn't run. I get it that he genuinely cares for me. I normally don't like to feel this defenseless around other people or that I have that much trust or faith but for some reason I trust him. He's the closes person that I ever had to me since my Aunt died. I just never cared for someone that much that I really feared loosing them and that my caring for them might mean loosing them in a final sort of way. I just don't feelings well, or soft feelings well.
ponygirl74
A mutual friend is visiting him today. I Made him a card and wrote a note in it. I said some things that hint on how i feel but I have the feeling that when he reads it that the friendship will end. I know it's a feeling an that it's probably not valid but I fear a loss. Anyone else with any advice? I feel afraid of loosing a close friend that I really value.
deleted_user
we all need to take risks once in a while and if you dont wear your heart on your sleeve now and then well we wont get anywhere, i hope you get the answer you want x
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