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letting go

ponygirl74
ponygirl74
I've been told by many that I have a hard time letting go of the past, which is true. I was abused by my brother and step-father emotionally neglected by most of my family and the abuse was physical, mental and emotional . I'm stuck in the past for that's all I know. I really have not had much experience with people's kindness and fear the people who are kind to me that they'll leave because I'm lacking in something. Anyone else have a hard time letting go and if you have and have learned to let go of in the proses how or what works for you?
MaybeICanHelp
MaybeICanHelp
I think practicing mindfulness and mindfulness meditation would help you. Mindfulness teaches you to shift your mind away from being lost in negative thoughts about the past and into a calm state of being where you are aware only of what is happening here and now. Mindfulness is practised on its own and is also a part of dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT). I just wrote a long post about mindfulness in the DBT Skills group. You should look at that. Do a search for "DBT Skills" to find it.
ImpulsiveREtardednes
ImpulsiveREtardednes
I'm sorry. I wish I could offer you more advice that unpractical impulse. I don't even know how to accept another person's LOVE, never mind letting go of the past. Sometimes, I'm not sure how it came to be to begin with. How can I let go of something I'm not even 100% sure about???

The only suggestion I have to offer, is benefit of the doubt. Every person is individual...and unless they give you an uneasy feeling to begin with...there's a chance that there's good in them. If there isn't, detach. Don't hold on...it'll just make things worst. By letting go...you can just, detach. Easier said then done, I know. It's true for everyone. But just a suggestion. :) I hope you find an answer/suggestion that works for you.