Maybe you get so excited that someone is willing to go out with you that you want to bear all? It's a boundary issue.

Just make yourself a list of issues not okay to discuss on the first three dates. Then issues only once you are exclusive, etc...

Don't let the person in too much at first.

How about focusing on getting to know THEM to see if THEY meet YOUR criteria?

: D

Well i have been internet dating sites off and on for a year once my marriage ended. . So i have no problem getting a date.. but i do get excited and say inappropriate things. .. and then feel awkward. . Then more inappropriate stuff comes out of my mouth. . Usually when its someone worth my time.. i mess it up... im way more cool with someone who has there stuff all not together for some reason then i end up in two month long relationships that are doomed .. maybe im destined to be a old spinster alone with my pets lol

Any chance alcohol gets in the mix?

Don't worry... I've been there.

Any kids?

Single's not so bad... It's nice to call the shots. : )

I have no children. . I have a big issue with drinking. . And being alone. .i have always been someone's. . Gf.. or wife in the case of my marriage long term relationships are my speciality. I found myself after my separation going crazy with booze.. involving myself with unhealthy men.. flipping bfs after a couple months.. still working 80 hours as a psw mind u and this time round i moved a ex bf bad boy who does bad things. . Into my house. Because he was homeless . And finally after two months i have had it.. he did something i think i will be scared for life and now im feeling the need to get paired up with a new guy and im not even out of this relationship. . Man i went off topic and holy crap out there on this post. Theres so much. . Im feeling overwhelmed.. im scared tomorrow i will cave again and let him stay and the longer he stays at my house. . As i basically support him.. the more involved and emotionally charged this is.. hope i can stay strong. .

NOT off topic at ALL. It IS the topic...

(Man, I should be doing this for a living...)

There's so much to your response, I don't know where to start.

You do realize that your career and your lifestyle are enmeshed, right??? You're making your LIFE your CASELOADS...

Don't feel bad; happens all the time.

Welcome and now you see that posting can help a lot.

Start up some new topics, and I think you'll get a lot of sound advice.

Forgot to say- I suggest the alcoholism and physical/emotional abuse forums.

Hugs.

Ok.. well i can see that.. i am a nurturing person. . And i cant say no to people. . And im easily swayed. . A complete target for any male that can sense a vulnerable person... and nice guys bore me.. or annoy me.im attracted to the alpha male. .. even Though i spent my twenties with one very meek man.. which i married. . After him i have only dated dominant personalities .. i still feel lost..