ahhh i just dont completely understand it and ive been diagnosed for afew years now. Its the fear of abandonment its self harm its a shaken identity it is also can be almost like a multiple personality disorder. Intense angrier to child like is my extreme emotions it can vary. For me its not been able to control your feeling they feel more then they are. i hope that helps alittle

It's a pretty broad spectrum personality disorder. There are 9 criteria for it and if you meet 5 or more, you qualify as a borderline. i would ask your doctor which 5 s/he thinks you meet and discuss them. They should tell you more information when they diagnose you. I'm sorry about that. If you need a good book to read, check out I Hate You- Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality by Jerold J. Kreisma. It can explain things so much better :)

Thanks. I actually got a paper from my therapist with the 9 criteria and explaining them, and I agree with my therapist that I meet most of them. I just don't really understand it. Thanks for the information.

Well each and every person's experience with something is always different. So, their experience in a similar field of something is also different. It all depends on you.

For instance, while most people suffer with attachment issues...I suffer from DEtachment issues. While everyone is out there always looking for someone to make sure they're not abandoned...I'm not looking...if I stumble across them...then that's how it happens. I was diagnosed with BPD almost 4 years ago now...but, that doesn't mean that anyone who has it will truly understand it. Even the doctors don't understand it. It's just one of those things.

Thanks for all the information. I guess the reason I don't really understand it is becoming more clear, sense no one really understands.

Just wanted to add that everyone is different and have different reasons for having BPD. The majority of people who have it have gone through some type of abuse as a child though as with anything there are exceptions to the rule. They also say there is a specific gene related to this disorder and sometimes it never gets activated. Also, different personalities will choose different coping mechanisms when they are not taught properly as children so no two people with BPD has exactly the same issues. This is just my take based on things I've read about it.

I got the most useful information from Tami Green's talks on YouTube.
It was also really helpful for me to read lots of bpd blogs to get a feel for the range of bpd. I agree with the comments here so far that the outcomes of bpd are as varried as people on the planet. The core of it seems to be attachment & abandonment issues. My blog is www.heartjunky.wordpress.com, and there are links to lots of other blogs and resources there. Healing and coming to terms with this is a very, very individual process. There's no pill, and there's no guaranteed therapist or program, but I DO believe that there definitely IS HOPE. Love to you.