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Whelp, my 4 year old is starting to talk a bit more. The bit he's beginning to share is starting to paint a grimmer picture than we'd even thought! Apparently, monster boy's biggest brother is a BIG monster too. Our little guy, without sharing exactly what yet, disclosed that this young man also touched him inappropriately. This young man just recently turned 18! So, this is a bit more serious...we're waiting for more details before sharing with the police because they have been SO dismissive of our claims thus far.
On top of attempting to accept that claim, this morning he drew a picture of monster boy and his little sister dressed in costumes for halloween but naked on their bottoms. "They were touching each others privates, see mom?" But...it gets even crazier. "I saw them in a movie on the t.v. with their bottoms off and touching each others privates and BIG monster was the one video-tapiing." BUT, he explains that it was him and his sister that snuck around to see it peering through a garden window (which doesn't make sense with the location of the t.v.), that they were never found out, that his dad and I were outside in the car watching him and that monster mom was cooking dinner in the kitchen RIGHT NEXT TO this said movie playing on the t.v.! SO, we feel that this might be pieces put together from reality and a dream. We're going to wait to report but share with his therapist for next week's session.
Today at therapy, he expressed the following in regards to the 4 monster kids:
-All of them are red flag people.
-Monster boy's sister "hurt my sister (my daughter)" and that's why she's a red flag person
-Monster boy "hurt me (4 year old)" and that's why he's a red flag person
-Monster boy's bigger brother "he was mean to everyone" and that's why he's a red flag person
-BIG monster, monster boy's oldest brother and my little guy's good, special buddy his whole life who is now an adult, "gave me (4 year old) bad touches"
After his session, he was adiment that he'd told 1 of the 2 secrets he needed to share! We're looking at him having been abused by not 1 but TWO monsters?! I let this young man "babysit" him with his mom's promoting and with said mom technically in charge?! DURING the year that his oldest, special brother was dying from cancer?!
MIND BLOWN. My husband is a bit numb because this was the boy who he had been mentoring...the boy who kept calling him to talk and check how he was doing EVEN AFTER disclosures came out about monster boy! This rabbit hole...it just never ends...
According to my four-year-old all of the children of the monster family have sexually touched him. They officially will be named monster girl, BIG monster and monsteR. You all know monster boy already! Not only has he shared this but he also shared that he saw monster mom videotaping monster girl and monster boy wearing inappropriate clothing and touching each other's private parts on her telephone and then she sent it to her husband?! He shared that all four of the monster kids would go in the room and practice to make their movies without clothes on while he and another little girl that they watched would play in the room next door. He also disclosed that monster boy "put his finger up my booty hole." When I asked him how did he know it was a finger? He answered "I don't know."
My precious daughter finally shared that it was monsteR that would video tape her with monster boy, from the doorway. She's ready to go and tell the police this fact and this makes our case even more complicated because this young man is 17 years old now. She says he used his cell phone so I'm hoping (as suck as that is) that he hasn't deleted these movies. The way that he thinks he probably hasn't... He probably thinks that no one will ever say anything about him because he's the extremely scary one. She also said that movies were made of monster boy and monster girl confirming my four-year-old's story. She also told me that the thing she told the mom was that monster boy had used knives on her and that was the thing that the mom had dismissed as "impossible" because he was so young.
We're overwhelmed with whether or not to report these allegations before the kids talk more about them because these are pretty serious allegations against people who actually would do time. I don't want to throw something out there against adults if my child is possibly confusing reality with a dream but then again I don't want to not tell the proper people so that the children in that household can finally get the help they need.
My husband and I plan on going down to the actual Precinct seeing as how phone calls to our detective have gone nowhere. We might be bringing our daughter with us so that she can testify to the information that she stated to us and they can see this is real. I am so sick and tired of having something so serious on my shoulders and want the proper authorities to take over and do something about it already! I am nauseous thinking about these children who are treated as my own watching me go through a pregnancy, nursing that precious baby, helping me change his diaper, and then when he was old enough to walk and allowed to be at their home a little more freely they attacked him and stole his innocence! I'm starting to realize that BIG monster was grooming him and me this entire time! Here I thought this young man was such a sweet guy and just loving on my little boy and it turns out he was molesting him too! There was this magnetism about him that he constantly was wanting to be with my little guy but now I realize it was sick & twisted and more of a control factor and brainwashing then it was pure love.
This is the first time my strength is really being challenged because this is huge. This also is having to make us pause the EMDR treatment because we're going to have to make sure our kids can testify against these people and that the other side can't use that type of therapy against us, which I have been told can happen. Ladies If you pray, please pray for me. My husband and I are feeling violated all over again. Just when we thought we were finding our groove...now all this. Yes I am so glad that my kids are brave enough to tell the truth now rather than later, so I am seeing the positive, but WOW, is my heart hurting.
I'm so sorry, WMX5.
Beware...this might trigger...
One time when she and her little brother were at their house being watched she saw MOMSTER marching monster boy up the stairs any Halloween costume while hitting him with magazines. Then she told me that the story that my little guy keeps telling about seeing these two kids on the TV half naked playing with each other's private parts is true. And the costume that monster boy had on in this movie... The one that he was wearing when MOMster walked him upstairs. Not only that but she has named MOMSTER as the one that would give monsteR the camera phone to go video his little sister and brother! And then if I am to believe my little guy there was another time when this older lady that lives with them was videotaping monster boy in monster girl touching each other in the room right next to the kitchen where their mom was cooking and she could easily see what was going on!!!
That's not even everything they've said and like I said this is like overwhelmingly shocking to me but the same time I'm not surprised. I was wondering why the big kid who just turned 18 and finally got a Facebook account had chosen to not be friends with anyone from his original family on Facebook but reached out to his biological family. Now it makes a little more sense why he kept saying " there's things at home that Mom does that will never change and I don't agree with." I literally always thought he was simply talking about the fact that he didn't get to have as much teenage Freedom as some kids.
This is just crazy... And I'm just beginning to process that if there are truly pornographic videos over at this family's house I will be testifying in court against this family. They might have a videotape of my daughter with monster boy recorded by monsteR!!! And I'm starting to think that there has to be a reason for her to be doing these things and I know she loves her husband so does that mean this man is a pedophile?! I don't know what to believe anymore. And I guess I'm happy that my oldest and second son don't know anything about this part of the crazy. They were not exposed to it.
http://www.jlc.org/current-initiatives/promoting-second-chances/juvenile-sex-offender-registration
http://www.smart.gov/SOMAPI/sec2/ch5_treatment.html