So mother in law is home.drama begins.She was out of town visiting the perp and his family,which is fine with me, after all he is her grandson and I don't expect her to cut him out of her life,but in the past him and his younger brother have been her favorites.Yes she has favorites and makes it painfully obvious(always takes them on vacations every summer,out to dinner, amusement parks, once in a lifetime trip to Alaska)Thay have been on vaca every summer for 14 years and sometimes Christmas break too.My husband has been telling me for years she has favorites and he was never one(he is adopted and believes her "real" kids are her favs).I have seen this first hand but never as clearly as now.So my sister in law (her daughter,husbands sister) is getting married in April, we told them we could not be at the wedding if the perp was there(Actually the perps mother,my other sil gracefully bowed out) So while my mil was visiting she told my sil about how she was so sad that they couldn't attend and how she wanted the family together and why cant we(my family) just get over it.She also made plans to go to perps house for Thanksgiving this year,now Thanksgiving was always our holiday, every year for 17 years we have always gone to her house,my husband is livid!!!You know the favorites thing,in fact 2 years ago she took them to Disney for Christmas, never even told us,my husbands ex told us after they left.Mother in law never even called that Christmas to wish daughter Merry Christmas. Boy my husband lost it.There are only a few people in the family who know what happened and I wonder if she has told them we are lying or exaggerating.It drives me crazy that she does not take this seriously,but it drives me even crazier that I care.How can she expect my daughter to just get over it?How do you guys get past the blatant disrespect and the not believing attitude of family members?Actually I know she believes it happened because he has admitted to it.As a Christian I try to remember it is God's place to pass judgement and not mine. A weird thing happened last week, I was watching Joyce Meyers and her message was about that very thing.If any of you don't know her story,she was sexually abused by her father. Towards the end of his life she was his caregiver,and forgave him. How she ever did that I will never understand.I wish I could find that kind of peace,one day at a time I guess.Right now I don't even want to hear his name