I totally understand your pain...on so many levels. We have family that wants us to "just heal and move on." They figure that since the abuse stopped, we should just be able to get better! They don't get the whole processing part if the journey nor the PTSD factor.

Also, we probably won't get justice for our case either. My kids don't believe the system works for them either. If you have read any of my story, you know the nightmare that will haunt us forever and the evil that they continue to perpetuate in their own home with their own children! I just pray that one of them breaks enough to tell the truth to some one who can help them!

Paranoia of evil for our babies is totally normal but I can promise you that I am NOT a pedophile. :) Don't give up!

It's so painful to know that these monsters roam free. The same is true for our daughter's perpetrator. Fortunately for us, we have moved to a different state. I can't imagine having to see him around town. I think you have shown remarkable restraint, pulling up beside him and screaming at him. That's called "civil discourse" compared to what I'm sure you'd rather do.

To people who expect you to get over it, say, "The man who was violent with my daughters lives without punishment in our community. We sometimes see him. We must always be vigilant. It's sometimes exhausting, and I just wanted to let off some steam."

This has taken a horrible toll on our finances. I think it has affected a lot of us in that way -- paying for therapy, moving, divorce/court costs, etc. I know that won't make you feel better, but I hope it will make you feel less alone. After the fact of the abuse itself, and the realization that my daughter had held onto this painful secret for 14 years, and realizing that 14 years of my life had been a lie, the sense of aloneness was often overwhelming. We know this happens to others -- but it's difficult to find those others "in real life." It's good to come here when you need to be heard.

I am so sorry,isnt it funny that this is really the only crime that we can say for sure never get prosecuted.irs ridiculous,you have a better chance at going to jail for marijuana than for child abuse.Even though the system has failed you your children will know you are on their side.I was also told to get over it by my in laws.I will take as long as it takes,i will have a pity party for myself for years if I want.We won't get justice either,your girls know you are there for them.

Thank you all so much! I do feel like we are in a bubble & no one understands what has happened. I want us all to try to have a "normal" life, whatever the hell that is! I think my girls realize I will do anything for them! Yes, I would love to do more than just scream at him! I have spent way too much time thinking about what I would love to do! I was reading older posts yesterday. I came across one for forgiveness lol. ....I will NEVER forgive this POS for what he has done, God & leaving my children for prison are the only things that keep me from acting. But, I pray daily that these girls forgive me for allowing this Monster into our home & for believing he would "care" for them! And, I pray that I can forgive myself enough not to burst into tears when I look at their faces & know what they've been through!

A wise therapist told me I have to accept we now have a new normal.after I accepted that I think I relaxed a little.

Omg this is horrific. I'm afraid of what will happen if our monster is not arrested but I'm almost certain I will no longer have internet access where I'll be

I'm sorry as well and glad you came back for support. It's been a rough road my daughter was just turning 3. Our perp (step dad) will also not be prosecuted and maintains his innocence to my family which I have no contact with. We've lost more than sometimes feels bearable but day by day I just put one foot in front of the other. I have found a lot of help and support in celebrate recovery that keeps me working the steps. It's been three years. My kids are doing well. We are two states away from the perp and my family and I am thankful everyday for the space. I still struggle with the injustice. My eyes are much more open to the very flawed system we have for investigating and prosecuting sexual abuse. It's hard to believe it could be as bad as it is in this day and age. However I would always tell my children that regardless of the outcome as far as it is up to them or me we do what is right and in our control. Trust God for the rest and accept the outcome knowing God will be our avenger. Be proud for stepping up and doing the right thing because there are many who don't or would sweep it under the rug. Good choices don't always reap immediately good results sometimes we have to wait for the results and other times what I learn or gain looks different. The people here have tremendous strength, are some of the bravest I know, would always give justice a chance, have a solid moral compass and I wish more people were like that. Welcome.

Yes, laws need changed! I understand that there are people who fabricate stories; but on the other hand every "professional" that I have spoken with states that they know children as young as 3 don't make things like this up! If never exposed to such atrocities, they are incapable of making such accusations up. Yet, they are too young to be questioned or be accountable! I know (not just because I'm their mother) that my children are very smart & articulate. They understand much more than I even give them credit for at times lol. It is so frustrating! It seems like people want to push this under the rug! BUT it is so much bigger. With sex trafficking & all the monsters exploiting, abusing & hurting children of all ages! We are much better than where we were almost a year ago now! I look back at the emotional, spiritual & Physical hole I was in...lol....things are better & we still have a ways to go. But there are days where I feel like giving up. ..in my heart I know I wont....I'm a fighter lol

Just wanted to say, glad you came back for support, so sorry all this is happening. You're doing a great job, and your kids are awesome! This issue is so under-reported by the press, and ignored by politicians and anyone in any kind of power (business conglomerate execs, etc) that could help propel a message out to the masses, which would help educate everyone, even those in law enforcement who refuse to get it. We were very fortunate to have excellent sex crimes detectives from our local and county prosecutor's dept on our team.

I was able to get my mind off a lot of it all by going through training to be a domestic violence advocate (suggested by our local sex crimes detective), and doing the helpline and going on the crisis response team calls really helped me to get the need to do something/be an activist thing out of my system. My kids have done similar smaller types of things to help themselves move forward, so just putting that idea out there. Adopting a shelter pet has helped some people (we did that too), or even just writing a letter to a veteran, a shut in, or to an elderly person who has no family or friends left. It helps change the magnitude of your circumstances, and helps you realize how much potential you have and how it's important to keep moving forward.

Sending healing thoughts and prayers to you all....