Forgive me,how old is your daughter?

I looked back and if I'm correct she is 7?There are many types of therapists out there,some take it slowly some dive Right in.But I believe with a 7 year old,slow is better,she will talk when she is ready.Writing a letter to get her anger out is perfectly fine.But you are the mom and if you don't feel she is making progress then you should move on.It may take years for her to open up,just be there for her and let her go at her own pace,you don't want her to dislike therapy

true true true... man like i have issues about the situation and i just want them to all be figured out NOW but her and i are different people mainly i am an adult, she is not. My friends have told me maybe she will be open to talking more openly about it when she is older but... i am terrified she will become me when it comes to her emotions. i am now 30 trying to figure out and cope with a lifetime worth of crap. I want what is best for my daughter and that is not it but i also dont feel like forcing her to talk is the best either.... i just wish we could all forget about it and not have any issues later due to it. Also my daughter is now 8 but was an older 7 year old when she disclosed.

My daughter was 7 when she disclosed just like yours and is now 8, our county offers a sexual abuse counseling program, which was almost presented more as an educational course that she went through with a licensed counselor. She was told how many kids go through the same thing, that she is normal but may experience some feelings that bother her, that it wasn't her fault, that she did the right thing by disclosing, and she also learned how to handle her feelings in the future. She also went through therapy (including EMDR, which REALLY helped), with a private therapist. I guess she was "forced" to talk about it during the EMDR, but other than that, she never was asked to go over exactly what was done to her. It was approached more like "we know what was done to you. Here's how we're going to deal with it." I really think that helped her. She dealt with it right away, and although I know she may have more problems down the road, she felt like once she completed the course, she could then say "ok, I dealt with it, now I can move on". She was able to ask questions and talk about things that bothered her, but since it was more of the adults "handling" the problem by educating her about what happened, I believe it took the pressure off of her to "get over" her feelings. I think sometimes therapists sit back and wait for kids to talk, but the kids are ashamed and don't even understand what the therapist wants to know. However, if a therapist starts talking about a subject in a matter-of-fact way, then kids are more apt to jump in and say "yeah, I've been feeling that way", or "hey, that's one of the things that happened to me and he also did this...". A lot of small children are very confused and have no idea what even happened to them, especially since they don't even know that sex exists. I truly believe they need to be educated before they can talk about it.

could you give me the name of that educational course i would really like to look into that and maybe find one in my area <3 and we dont talk about what happened to her. we have already informed the counslor of all that and they have talked to dcs but she just doesnt wanna talk about her feelings or any of it. i feel she needs to move past this anger she has and if after that she wants to stop counseling for the time being then we will cross that bridge when we get to it.