I actually wrote a post on this subject not too long ago...I'll try to bump it to the top so you can read it through.

Long story short, YES, my husband struggled with the abuse being so much in his head that I had to wait over a year to be intimate with him again...I mean, he didn't even want to French kiss, cuddle...I got brief kisses, hugs and hand holding while he mentally/emotionally processed everything through. I couldn't even pursue because he'd backlash with "how can you think of sex at a time like this?!" And he was right...to a certain extent...except I CHOSE to mentally fight the abusers who were trying to take up space in my brain by attempting to live life normally.

There is hope though, with time. We are back to normal now! Everytime we come together there's a part of me that says "in your face monster family (my kid's abusers), you can not steal MY normal too!" So making love with my husband is now sort of a grounding...like THIS is what sex is SUPPOSED to be...a reminder that the act in and of itself is a beautiful thing, done right. It's healing. But it took a LOT of time for my husband to get there. Give yourself time to grieve...you'll get there again sooner than later. <3

Thank you Warrior, I know things will get better, we love each other and he is so caring and understanding. I crave for healing in that area and with God's help, it will come.

I experienced this for a long time too. Especially things that I knew were done to my child. It was revolting! I didn't know how to cope with it so I just told my husband how I felt. The longer is was in therapy, the easier it was. I'm still not in the same place, but closer to normal. You aren't alone.

Thank you momo!!

Yes I struggled here also now it doesn't interfere

I went through a brief fight with this as well... but my husband and i have dealt with the lack of being intimate before and it was hard on our relationship. So I knew I had to get over it. He was very understanding once I worked up the nerve to talk to him about it. I was embarrassed I was letting this affect me in this way. But we talked through it and I talked with my counselor about it ((talk about suuuuper weird)) and we all came to the same conclusion... I was not going to let this situation break up my family or break me. Just knowing that helped me get close to my husband again.

Thank you for your words maDeLo, I am working on this in my life. I really believe one reason is because of what happened to my daughter every time we go to have sex, I feel it's dirty and wrong. This is a hangup I have to get over because sex between a husband and wife is beautiful. We never had a problem till my daughter's disclosure. I love my husband very much and he is so understanding but I know this is hard on him. I have an apt tomorrow with a therapist about the abuse and I plan to discuss this with her too. Again thank you!

This is one aspect of PTSD for a parent of a survivor.

Really Naive? I never thought of having PTSD. I guess it could be because it was tramatic for me but I just never thought of me having that. Thank you for sharing this insight.