Parents Whose children have been sexually abused Community Group
This group is for parents whose children have been sexually abused. We welcome both Mothers and Fathers. Here, we can offer support to one another. We can vent, cry and lift each other up. No condemning or criticizing allowed. We are here for support. We LOVE (((HUGS))) !
Once upon a time, my 2nd son spent his 4th birthday in the hospital learning of a life-altering diagnosis of a bone marrow failure. Our new circle of trust, our supportive "family" became the medical staff at the hospital that surrounded us with love, hope & info. My son literally lived at the hospital for days-weeks at a time. We'd spend no less than 2 days every week for a year sitting in a hospital bed getting a transfusion of blood. He had over 30 transfusions plus specialized medicine to help heal him. He had his favorite nurses one of which was nurse Michael. He was one of the few males involved in his care. He helped make our family feel at home. He saw my son in a diaper on a regular basis. Luckily, from what I remember, we never left him in charge of our son the few times we ran to the cafeteria or to do an errand, THANK GOD! The only "red flag" we ever picked up on was that he never spoke of any relationships, neither gay or straight. I remember one time my mom joked with him asking "Michael, when do we get to come to your wedding?!" And he replied by laughing uncomfortably and saying "ha, nah..."
Fast fwd. Almost 5 years. My 2nd son had to write a book with a moral lesson. I helped him brainstorm and he decided on a subject near to his heart, being brave at the hospital. He created the artwork, chose his characters (himself, his aunt&uncle and nurse Michael), and I helped him write his story. It was a "safe" story about a sick, tired little boy who nurse Michael helped to awesomely take care of (he knew just what his patient needed, which wasn't too far off reality!) and who finally got to go home feeling better. We gave this book to the aforementioned aunt & uncle as a shower gift for the new cousin born.
Fast fwd. 2 more years. Our oldest was diagnosed with cancer March 2014 and the hospital world became our home again. We actually saw nurse Michael when we were admitted to the hospital one time and excitedly waved at him! He gave us the deer-in-the-headlights, surprised look, cracked a quick smile, then ran off, never connecting with us personally. Now, I'm very glad of this.
Then, a few months after this, my hospital mama friend started sharing the horrifying news about who this nurse really was...a disgusting, perverted, deceptive pedophile. I blocked her messages from Facebook because I just couldn't handle how disturbing the info was!!! Lol...little did I know that similar things were happening to my own babies behind closed doors from other "good" people.
If you want to read the disturbing truth of who this male nurse truly was, here's the article. I actually only just had the ability to read it this past week for the first time. I'm strong enough now. I'm beginning to revisit situations from my past now that I'm getting stronger...there are more that I will share.
http://www.sandiegouniontribune.com/sdut-michael-lutts-sentenced-baby-porn-2015dec07-story.html
This male nurse had no contact with my oldest. The child I am slightly concerned about (but pretty sure he was never left alone with) is my 2nd son who is special needs (OCD, speech issues, etc.) He was 4 at the time we had this nurse on a regular basis.
My oldest son's actions WERE non-sensible in every way after the year of chemo. What happened with his sister wasn't the only stupid thing he did. And you have to realise this young man had been told that more than likely he'd die of his particular type of cancer, they just didn't know when. Basically, he went on a YOLO binge. He had NEVER been like this so, it was trauma related to his cancer experience. Also, during the time stuff was going on with my daughter & son was the time I had pulled my kids away from the monster family and because my daughter's body had grown conditioned to the good feelings that come from sexual touch, SHE sought it elsewhere...namely her brothers (she acted out with my then 3 year old too.) The first time was a complete accident! She walked in on her brother changing, in his undies, and how she reacted was what prompted him to not react as a brother should but instead give in to those YOLO thoughts of being intimate before he died. I know all this from the various conversations I've had with all my kids.
Not that I could even begin to explain the whole situation with words, nor do I want to, but needless to say, our family has been healed fully and I have full confidence that my son is not a pedophile nor a future child molester. I am NOT so confident about the monster family's kids!