Parents Whose children have been sexually abused Community Group
This group is for parents whose children have been sexually abused. We welcome both Mothers and Fathers. Here, we can offer support to one another. We can vent, cry and lift each other up. No condemning or criticizing allowed. We are here for support. We LOVE (((HUGS))) !
Hello everyone!
I haven't posted in awhile, and things have been going semi-okay. I feel like I just need some extra perspective on a few things going on with my daughter. She has been pretty disrespectful lately and sometimes just downright rude. She at times acts much older than five, but then in the same moment she is acting extra young. She has been throwing tantrums lately, even in public! I asked my mom, and she said that my siblings and I did not throw tantrums in public at age five! It just seems odd to me that she is acting so much like a baby.
I am worried because I think that she is stressed out. She has her own activities that she does throughout the week/month and then she also sees her father (perp) and grandparents weekly. I think that she does have a good time with her dad. She will never admit that to me, but I overheard her saying goodbye to him a couple of weeks ago and I do think that she loves him. She has been going with his parents, and I expected her to be having a blast with them and enjoying herself. I prepared myself to hear about all of the great fun things they do and all of the things they buy her. Instead, when she comes home, she is very excited to see us and just wants to snuggle with us and be close by.
I don't know how to explain to the guardian that I don't think seeing them all so frequently is good for her! I know that children can manipulate and do certain things to get their way but I genuinely think that this is stressing her out! I feel helpless because there is nothing I can do right now except for settle and agreement with them and I know they will only settle for overnight visits or more!
It is so hard to be a mother and not be able to help my child and fix things for her. I don't know if I am being overly sensitive or if this really is "ruining" my daughter but I am getting stressed out that things are not getting better!
I haven't posted in awhile, and things have been going semi-okay. I feel like I just need some extra perspective on a few things going on with my daughter. She has been pretty disrespectful lately and sometimes just downright rude. She at times acts much older than five, but then in the same moment she is acting extra young. She has been throwing tantrums lately, even in public! I asked my mom, and she said that my siblings and I did not throw tantrums in public at age five! It just seems odd to me that she is acting so much like a baby.
I am worried because I think that she is stressed out. She has her own activities that she does throughout the week/month and then she also sees her father (perp) and grandparents weekly. I think that she does have a good time with her dad. She will never admit that to me, but I overheard her saying goodbye to him a couple of weeks ago and I do think that she loves him. She has been going with his parents, and I expected her to be having a blast with them and enjoying herself. I prepared myself to hear about all of the great fun things they do and all of the things they buy her. Instead, when she comes home, she is very excited to see us and just wants to snuggle with us and be close by.
I don't know how to explain to the guardian that I don't think seeing them all so frequently is good for her! I know that children can manipulate and do certain things to get their way but I genuinely think that this is stressing her out! I feel helpless because there is nothing I can do right now except for settle and agreement with them and I know they will only settle for overnight visits or more!
It is so hard to be a mother and not be able to help my child and fix things for her. I don't know if I am being overly sensitive or if this really is "ruining" my daughter but I am getting stressed out that things are not getting better!
I wish I had some further insight for you.
It can't ever hurt
Even if she's your only child
When my daughter started acting out, I started taking her out for breakfast w just me before school. It made huge progresses in her behavior. It let her know that I care about what she needs to say and it's her time that she has the floor to talk to me alone.
Routine, scheduled 1:1 time can't ever hurt, it can only help.
She hated play therapy and very quickly didn't like going this is different because the therapist works with you with a blue tooth headsets and a double sided window you could probably find something o. YouTube about it.
I think her being supervised by someone who supports the perp is a very bad idea I can't imagine why the courts would allow that it should be a neutral third party. She Definitly loves her dad but she doesn't feel safe. My daughter loves her grandpa to the point she protects him but I know seeing him would stress her out because she knows what he could do. I'm sorry you aren't better supported in that. The other good thing about pcit is the very often video record it and if something came out during that time it's on tape. Praying you find something more to help.