Parents Whose children have been sexually abused Community Group
This group is for parents whose children have been sexually abused. We welcome both Mothers and Fathers. Here, we can offer support to one another. We can vent, cry and lift each other up. No condemning or criticizing allowed. We are here for support. We LOVE (((HUGS))) !
Since I have had children, I have always felt guilty for anything that I do for myself. I have always put my kids first and made sure that all of their needs were met. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't have it any other way. However, I have realized in the last few years that I have to take care of myself to be able to be there for my kids and my husband, tool.
So, what do I do now? How do I take care of me? I am trying to do everything that my daughter needs right now, as well as trying to make sure my son is not left out since so much attention is on her due to the traumatic events that have happened to her. I actually envy my husband because he gets to leave to go to work although I know that he has a demanding job and it is no piece of cake. I feel as if I could just get away from here, I would get so much relief!! I want to scream to the high heavens!! I want to ride down the highway and cry until I completely wear out!! I cannot do any of these things because I am here... dealing with what everyone else needs from me. I cry in the silence at night when everyone else has managed to fall asleep. I ache all over from getting no sleep, but I know that I have to still get up and go for those two sweet babies that God has blessed me with!!
I feel as if I am failing miserably!! We have had maybe 3 days of school since we found out 2 weeks ago. My house is a total disaster and there is no one to help me get it back in order. We have family and friends, but no one wants to help when it comes to physical labor and time from their busy schedule. I haven't gotten up with my husband to fix his lunch and see him off to work in 2 weeks. I need every minute I can get in before the kids wake so I lie there until I absolutely have to get up. I am doing good to shower every day and function enough to make sure that my kids are fed and seen about. If I am struggling this hard to see about everyone else and seemingly failing at it, how in God's name am I ever going to make it to taking care of me? I even feel selfish saying that on here,
Does anyone else feel this way? Is this typical? I just feel as if I am going to fall apart any second (I don't mean a meltdown, I mean a full fledged nervous breakdown) and I wonder what in the world will happen when I do?
So, what do I do now? How do I take care of me? I am trying to do everything that my daughter needs right now, as well as trying to make sure my son is not left out since so much attention is on her due to the traumatic events that have happened to her. I actually envy my husband because he gets to leave to go to work although I know that he has a demanding job and it is no piece of cake. I feel as if I could just get away from here, I would get so much relief!! I want to scream to the high heavens!! I want to ride down the highway and cry until I completely wear out!! I cannot do any of these things because I am here... dealing with what everyone else needs from me. I cry in the silence at night when everyone else has managed to fall asleep. I ache all over from getting no sleep, but I know that I have to still get up and go for those two sweet babies that God has blessed me with!!
I feel as if I am failing miserably!! We have had maybe 3 days of school since we found out 2 weeks ago. My house is a total disaster and there is no one to help me get it back in order. We have family and friends, but no one wants to help when it comes to physical labor and time from their busy schedule. I haven't gotten up with my husband to fix his lunch and see him off to work in 2 weeks. I need every minute I can get in before the kids wake so I lie there until I absolutely have to get up. I am doing good to shower every day and function enough to make sure that my kids are fed and seen about. If I am struggling this hard to see about everyone else and seemingly failing at it, how in God's name am I ever going to make it to taking care of me? I even feel selfish saying that on here,
Does anyone else feel this way? Is this typical? I just feel as if I am going to fall apart any second (I don't mean a meltdown, I mean a full fledged nervous breakdown) and I wonder what in the world will happen when I do?
Once the dust settles, it will get easier. The overwhelming feeling of loss decreases with time. You are in a marathon, sister, not a sprint. You must take care of yourself. Keep up with the hair, make up, dressing nicely as befits the super hero that you are! Walk in the evenings, pray, see a counselor. Whatever works to bring you emotional sustenance. Look in the mirror every day and tell yourself that you are doing the best that you can and more than most. By believing our children, we choose a rockier road than by being in denial. We looked an awful truth in the eye and believed. We asked that monster-is that all you have? Cause we are all still standing! Moms are waaay tougher than any monstrous truth.