Parents Whose children have been sexually abused Community Group

This group is for parents whose children have been sexually abused. We welcome both Mothers and Fathers. Here, we can offer support to one another. We can vent, cry and lift each other up. No condemning or criticizing allowed. We are here for support. We LOVE (((HUGS))) !

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Emerald87 02/20/2017

It was recently discovered the man I have been sharing my life with for the past 11 years has been sexually abusing 2 of my children. My life has been flipped upside down and feel I have lost my control and my faith. I am still trying to process everything. My daughter's have told about the abuse and he is still asking what he can do to get me to stay. I am not staying I feel this is my fault because I had no clue about the abuse my kids showed no signs of abuse. I didn't protect my kids from this. I put my love faith and trust in the wrong person. I am so lost and confused right now with all of this. I am afraid of what this is going to do to my kids later on in life. I feel so helpless and lost right now.

Naive1.2 02/21/2017

I'm on my way to bed, but I know how desperate I felt, after my daughter disclosed, to connect with someone who might understand, so I just wanted to let you know you'd been heard. Every last thing you are feeling is normal , and hurts like hell. More members will be in touch soon. You have come to the right place. We will support you. Hugs!

heartsadx3 02/21/2017

I'm very sorry for what you are going through. If you have not already please report the abuse and get the help you desperately need for you and your children to get through this. As soon as there is a police case you are entitled to victim comp for your children to recieve therapy if you are in the states. It is a process but you will get through this one day at a time.

hopefulmama 02/21/2017

I'm so sorry,I agree, report!Are your children in therapy?Are you?My daughter didn't have any signs either,she was abused by her cousin.isnt it appalling he would have the nerve to ask you to stay?It shows he does not have any remorse for what he did,or respect for you!

Emerald87 02/21/2017

It has already been reported! I have no clue who called it in I didn't have any clue until cps and the cops showed up to talk to me last Monday I am very thankful for whoever called it in. I wish my child didn't have to go through this. They start counciling next week he is still trying to claim he didn't do it but 2 kids telling simialer stories when being questions I wasn't there to prevent this but I will be here now for what ever they need

momof2b 02/21/2017

What a shock do have people show up and tell you something like this. I remember vividly my feeling upon finding out. How are your kids handling this? Try to find a children's advocacy center and start there. They will be able to walk you through what to expect and can help you find resources for your children and yourself.

HelpHealMom 02/21/2017

My heart hurts for you. This is the most devastating news to us as parents. Our first response is, it's my fault, I didn't protect them. But it's not your fault, it is your husband's. Believing our children is the first step and supporting and loving them unconditionally is the second. It grieves us to think that someone we love could do this but accept it we must. It will be a long road for all of you but getting the support and help you need will help the process alot. My prayers are with you, sending hugs.

ashley73 02/21/2017

I hope you are doing okay. But know that you probably are not as this is all very new to you. I am so sorry. I'm glad that your children reported it as many never do and suffer even more. Not that that makes it any better. :-( You are in my thoughts. I know how utterly in shock and despair I was for months and months after hearing my children's disclosures. Hugs. Hang in there. You and your kids can and will get through this. Be strong mama. <3

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