Parents Whose children have been sexually abused Community Group
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It has now been 3 weeks since we reported the rest of the monster kids & 2 1/2 weeks since we reported the monster parents to the police and after numerous voicemails left and phone calls to try to communicate, I finally was able to get a hold of our detective's supervisor! I have a few updates to share but as far as I can tell we are still in the patiently waiting phase.
The Sergeant gave me a couple updates:
1) CPS already did a welfare check on the perp family's children and according to the detective an "emergency removal was not indicated." I know from experience that ALL this means is that their children did not verbally confirm that they are being abused; it doesn't mean that they aren't continuing to be abused.
2) In regards to having our children be allowed to get another forensic interview, at this moment the Sergeant is under the belief that it could "re-traumatize" our kids or even be mis-construed as a "coerced testimony" by the defense if we go to court. I shared some basic facts with him, one of which is that we had been extended the offer to come back in and talk again when the kids felt stronger because in the first interview they didn't say a ton. I also pointed out that our daughter came in with us and had spoken directly to the officer when we made our report on the kids because she wants people to hear the truth! He's going to follow up with our detective with a few questions he has and get back to me.
3) Both of our police reports have been sent to the district attorneys (juvenile & adult) and we are waiting for them to review them both. I have spoken with the juvenile DA in the past and she told me that if she had the ability to prosecute the older kids that she would. The Sergeant said he would call to find out where they're at in the reviews.
4) I asked about a search warrant, impressing upon him the fact that this evil family is trying to move out of the country and cleaning house (we're concerned they will throw away evidence) and he said again, that he will follow up with our detective. He said a lot has to fall into place in order to get a search warrant. I told him I would think that with two of my kids indicating that they had been in both pictures AND child pornography that there would be more urgent movement on their part!
I also reiterated that I still love this family even though I now know who they really are and that I believe my children are telling the truth. I re-stated that I don't have some vendetta or vengeance issue. The only reason I continue to pester is because I want to make sure that the perp family's younger children are not stuck in a life-time of abuse AND ensure that other naive families do not become their next victims. I also stated point blank that I know that two of my children had been raped. I think I FINALLY got his attention and if nothing else, he will get some movement to happen in regards to this case. Meanwhile, we wait for their phonecall...
It has been over a month since we filed charges against both the other monster kids and the monster parents. We have heard NOTHING back from the DA or the police. I'm 99% sure we've been denied another forensic interview. In case you didn't read it in my other comments, the juvenile DA did slip me the information that monster boy admitted to touching two of my kids 4 times. This would have been during the "10 minute conversation" he had with our detective in front of his parents. Keeping that in mind...
Monster family...where do I begin?!
In the past year, they have monopolized more local homeschool circles, new ones right near us even, than have in the whole 8 years we knew them. They have been received as an "amazing Christian family who's going to start an orphanage and be missionaries in Vietnam." In the past month and a half, they have cleaned up their house completely, taken pictures of almost every room (4 missing; very surreal to see crime locations listed as a place to live), put their house up for lease, changed their address to a PO box, had their going away party on Veteren's day, recruited people's emails to send "newsletters with updates from their missions trip" and even monster mom had the balls to confront my only friend still in the church kid's group [She told her she knew because our family was no longer at the group that my friend had to have been the one who kept her son, monster boy, from being allowed to come back to club. My sweet, normally timid friend stood up to her and said "yup, you're right! And don't you think that's the safest thing for your son, my 3 year-old daughter and the reputation of said club?" And monster mom backed off.] Monster girl even some how convinced my friend to take her rabbit. monsteR even opened a Facebook account where I learned about the timing of the going away party and the fact that the biological mom of monster boy/girl had not been told anything (which I had suspected.) The family had even gone and held signs for a certain nominee before voting day...a couple days in a row. Monster boy looks SO sad in all the pictures...and everyone else looks WAY to happy for knowing they are currently being investigated for violent sexual crimes!
I couldn't just sit idly by anymore so I got a little counsel from a couple of our therapists and decided with their urging to share the basic truth with as many people as I felt were wise. So I called up all those alleged victim's families and told them that "there is an open criminal investigation against the whole family and they are trying to move to Vietnam in the next couple of weeks." It's fact so no slander especially because I didn't name names. Two of the families said their girls swear nothing ever happened to them. (I know my kids wouldn't lie but I'm not going to push. I did share with one mom that it might just not be time for her daughter to share yet so to be open to the possibility that it is still true.) One mom's daughter had been in therapy but has never mentioned the people surrounding the abuse, not even my daughter, nor the circumstances, i.e. the local church functions. I did share a bit more of what my children said they saw happen to her daughter to the therapist could have more direction. That therapist told the mom it's possible that she blocked it out and won't remember until she's an adult. I also told specific individuals to please share the fact of an open criminal investigation with the leaders of at least 3 local homeschool groups. I even contacted the biological mom and simply told her what I quoted above + the nature of the crimes being sexual and physical abuse and she was in shock. She had not even been told they were moving! We also had one more therapist make a report to CPS in regards to the parents pornography being shown to children. (I have no faith in that helping anything but at least it's out there.) I just felt like the truth needed to be dispersed because they were truly brain-washing people WAY too much! So, now I get to wait and see if the police decide before this family moves out of the country.
Next week is Thanksgiving...monster girl had shared they were trying to move before this holiday. Time is ticking down and all I can do is pray now. Pray that God will slap their pride right in their arrogant faces and cause them to fall flat on their knees in guilt! And live life...every day...trying not to share all this stuff in my head with my children so they don't feel as anxious. On a good note, their anxiety has been WAY less lately! Please, pray with me! Pray that the truth comes out!
Well, I just spoke directly with the juvenile district attorney and she said she doesn't even have the 3 monster kid's case in her system!!! What the *@%#!?
Anyways, now the jr. DA is calling the sergeant directly to find out what's going on. *sigh* And I tried to look up the monster parents in the system and they weren't there.
I think I was lied to. I feel like I'm getting the cold shoulder from the police. I feel that they don't want to pursue this case. I hope I'm wrong but the evidence isn't supporting their story! I haven't heard from anyone from the police since October 17 with the exception of finally getting ahold of the sergeant once November 3rd. Almost 2 months of no contact from the detective who was supposed to work this case. The system is failing...
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