Parents Whose children have been sexually abused Community Group
This group is for parents whose children have been sexually abused. We welcome both Mothers and Fathers. Here, we can offer support to one another. We can vent, cry and lift each other up. No condemning or criticizing allowed. We are here for support. We LOVE (((HUGS))) !
My daughter was 6 when she told me her stepfather had touched her. That was all she said. I immediately threw him outnof our home and called the police. The police did an interview with my daughter, who was scared and so unsure of what was happening. I wasn' allowed to be with her during the interview. Afterwards the investigator told me all that she had said. How long it had been going on, where I was when it happened. My goodness I never had a clue, but at that moment my world stopped and all these little instances came to my mind and I said oh my god, how could I have missed this. They weren't obvious. As I had asked her many times if anyone has every touched her badly, told her about the good you he' and bad touches consistently, but little things, like her crying to go with me places, asking me not to work.. it' been almost two years and we just recently had our trial. It was a mistrial the first time around. This time, it was found he was not guilty. It wasn' lack of evidence, as we had texts of him admitting guilt, saying sorry, we had the interview with him admitting it to the investigator, we had my daughter testify, jurors were in tears by the end. But what happened? I'l never know what happened between the time those crying jurors left to the time they came back.
His mother works at the police station, i always wondered if that ever had anything to so with it.
This was the hardest thing I've ever went through. And it still is..
From the experiences shared here, it seems that it is harder to put away a child molester than it is to convict someone for shoplifting. Both are acts of stealing, but one steals a pair of fancy headphones and the other steals an entire childhood, as well as the sense a parent has that she can protect and understand her own child.
I am so sorry that this has happened to your daughter and to you. I stand with you in devastated disappointment that the trial turned out this way. If his mom rigged the trial, she keeps a loser son, but loses a granddaughter who could use her support.
Keep writing. It helps.
I just feel like I failed my little girl. She testified in total 12 times. While everyone around her said she would be a hero to others if she did it just one more time. And she did over and over. Yet no justice for her. No finality no closure.
She isn't his biological daughter, but he had raised her from diapers. We have one son together and he is now 4. The first thing she asked me when she found out he was found not guilty, was oh no mom. Does this mean he will see Benji now. Will Benji have to go.
And I know the answer, because I'm sure one day he will fight me on custody of him, I still have full custody as he hasn't appealed it yet (knock on wood) but once he does I'll have no bone in the fight. Because of his not guilty verdict.
Every time I hear a knock on the door I expect a deputy serving me papers for an appeal date.