Parents Whose children have been sexually abused Community Group
This group is for parents whose children have been sexually abused. We welcome both Mothers and Fathers. Here, we can offer support to one another. We can vent, cry and lift each other up. No condemning or criticizing allowed. We are here for support. We LOVE (((HUGS))) !
i am not sure this is the right group to be venting this all in but man i would love for live to throw me a break maybe!!!!! I have been battling my depression the last few months and the majority of those months i considered myself losing. i want to tell my husband so bad but i dont want him to stress out, he is currently deployed and doesnt need the extra stress of worry about the kids and i. which brings me to my next problem... he is coming home is less than a month and i feel there is so much that needs to be done. a for real cleaning of the house, laundry finally taken out of hampers and put away, yard mowed, our collect all of a bonus room needs cleaned, his truck needs fixed and the list just goes on it all has sucked the excitment out of him coming home. it is all just so stressful in my mind i just shut down and dont do anything. There is also jason's sentencing for his second county coming up on the 23 and i really dont think i can make it. it is making me feel sick that he may think he won this one because i wasnt there or something equally crazy. i want to put on a brave face for my daughter and make the 7 hour trip home to be there on the day he gets sentenced to another 8 years but financially and time wise i dont think i can make it happen. my gut is telling me to go that i have to be there but my mind is telling me to be realistic. my best friend is moving with in the month (she has been my biggegst support since my husband deployed). And if all of this isnt crazy enough the army is moving us to OK. i am very excited for the new adventure our family is going to embark on and the knowledge that my husband will be deployment free for the next few year but we bought our house in tn so now we are rushing to try and get it sold before we plan on moving in oct. it just all seems like so much and almost too much. i know i need to talk to my husband about all of this but that is all we ever talk about is the stupid adult crap in our lives. i just want a nice and easy playful conversation with him. i need it. i am so worried everything plus the added stress of the unknown on how we are going to be upon his homecoming me is throwing me into another funk. i just wanna lay here and procrastinate and pretend it isnt happening.......... i just want a break. that would be really nice right about now. they arentkidding when they say "when it rains it pours....." anyone have an umbrella i could possibly borrow? ok im over it. im just gonna take a nap....
Procrastination is a force of nature. It's easiest for me to get going after I've done a bit of gentle stretching. My body is already in motion, so it's easier to do a little cleaning. Clean with music! "Whistling while you work" forces your brain into a lighter emotional state, and helps keep your mind off the stuff that makes you want to quit.
Justice -- or lack thereof -- will happen with or without you at the sentencing. Still, I understand your desire to be present. Can you write a letter that could be read during the proceedings you hope to avoid, so that you're heard even in your absence?
...number the items from most important to least (1=high priority, etc.)...
....start working through the list slowly but surely, using your hubby's smile and freedom to just enjoy being married when he comes back as your motivation...
...and take ONE DAY AT A TIME! It might take multiple days to accomplish one thing but that's ok if there is forward progress! And as you mark off your list you'll be motivated to keep going!
Ask around to those who you would trust for help. Maybe church outreach group could help with the bonus room? Or a trusted teenager looking for a small sum of Summer cash? But most importantly, keep in perspective what is MOST important: YOU & the KID'S! so make sure the day your hubby is coming home that you've taken a shower and will be relaxed enough to enjoy him I strad of being too focused on your list to have fun!
:) YOU CAN DO IT! :)