Following on from a previous thread on anti-depressants and suicidality I wanted to let you know that I sat down with dd15 last night and spoke about recent events. As you know she has had severe problems with flashbacks and zoning out and has told several people that she attempted suicide. The counsellor sent her straight to hospital from the last counselling session. Things have settled down a lot and we are all in a much better space.

I have never been one to confront people (well, that's not quite true, but solving relationship issues is something I run from). My parents were never really available to talk with me and due to my own abuse and lack of support/comfort from my parents I find it incredibly difficult to confront my emotions and not feel shame and guilt about them, so facing this situation with dd was over the top scary for me. After advice from here and from my counsellor I knew that I couldn't leave things as they were.

It was a good discussion, about 30 minutes, and covered a lot more than just the recent weeks. I told dd that she is an amazing, beautiful person (she obviously doesn't believe this), I love her, I'm there for her and that she can approach me no matter what, even in the middle of the night. I said that I would rather have her hand to hold that not have her in my life. We didn't make a pact as such but I did mention it and we agreed on a couple of things. I have also bought her a little something to help cement the discussion.

There are lots of positive things happening and we are learning to be there for each other.

Each day there are more things to cull from our lives. Today it was glasses that ds used in particular, so the bin is now full of them and I have a new set for when dd comes home from school. It's a constant purging. For me the most difficult area is photos, and of course, moving house. So hoping that we find a new home in this next month. We're ready to move on.