Parents Whose children have been sexually abused Community Group
This group is for parents whose children have been sexually abused. We welcome both Mothers and Fathers. Here, we can offer support to one another. We can vent, cry and lift each other up. No condemning or criticizing allowed. We are here for support. We LOVE (((HUGS))) !
I used to sing random nutty songs around the house. My 12 and 14 year olds are highly embarrassed by this and have let me know a lot. One time my daughter told my husband how she thinks I am a little crazy and worried. My husband told her "don't worry about your mom singing, worry when she stops"....well 5 months ago I stopped!!! I stopped smiling, I stopped singing silly songs around the house, I stopped laughing, I stopped enjoying anything....and everything. Today I caught myself singing an old favorite, Jermiah was a bullfrog....was a good friend of mine...I just smiled :)....something my husband said I don't do anymore. Smile it looks good on you.....
For a fleeting moment I didnt' think of my FIL and what he did to my precious baby girl....for a fleeting moment I was myself again. There is hope.
Seeing my daughter smile again may have been the trigger. It does happen, hang in there.
For a fleeting moment I didnt' think of my FIL and what he did to my precious baby girl....for a fleeting moment I was myself again. There is hope.
Seeing my daughter smile again may have been the trigger. It does happen, hang in there.
that and my medications. See, I always have a song in my to stop me from thinking about the details my daughter told me, thinking about the monster in my son, yet thinking about how much I miss my child
You see music and songs are my sanity right now and ever since all my abusers did what they did to me since I was 4. With out it I'm a crazy woman. Like I said that and my meds. I am bi polar depressed suffer from anxiety and panic attacks post tramatic stress disorder and a mood disorder. Whew...that's a mouthful. Thank God my daughters predator is in juvie awaiting his sentence...all of mine are somewhere out there. My mom did nothing except slap me and tell me it was all my fault.....I need music like a fish needs water.
Keep listening to that music!
Hontess you will get your songs back, a little at a time. As we see our children get better we can get better. Hang in there, there is a tune waiting to come out. It's good for our kids to see us happy sometimes, even if we are faking it til we make it.