Have you called and asked what is taking so long?Perhaps you can call the police and tell them you are worried he is coming to find you.

I've told them that, I've told them he's caring for other young girls as a baby sitter. They've known all this from day one

Why this isn't a top priority tells us a lot about how the law views this crime. I'm so sorry.

I don't understand it. Not at all

There seems to be nothing I can do. I'm just drowning

I meant to say what would happen if you told him everything?

They say to not contact him at all which I haven't..... I'm completely blown away by the fact that it seems he's not even on their radar even after an arrest warrant was passed onto us Marshalls for 1st degree sexual assault with a child under the age of 11. He's contacted 3 members of my family today trying to get in touch with me. He's even contacted my daughter's best friend another 13 year old girl. But he's still out there still on the streets completely unaware that anything is wrong. I have no idea why they haven't picked him up. I gave them a good home and work address and phone numbers. I feel like I'm drowning

If nothing is done this week I'm going to have to end this myself, I just can't live like this anymore. It was supposed to get better or easier with time. It's been 5 months and I want to die, now tonight, all day everyday. I don't think I will be around much longer. The pain is too much to bear

You will get through this!If you need extra support please call the crisis line,we are all here with you and sending all the strength we have. I know it doesn't seem like it but it will get easier,you will have a new normal.

Nope. Not an option, Brokenmother. You can't leave your children without a mother, without a soldier. Call 1-800-273-8255, the National Suicide Prevention Hotline.

If the police say don't call him, don't call him. He may be part of a larger network of pedophiles they are planning to arrest. That's just a guess. But there's a reason why they haven't arrested him yet. Even if it's a stupid reason. Even if someone is incompetent. Don't jeopardize your life and your children's lives.

Write back. Write all night long if you have to. Read other people's posts here and you will know that your compassion is needed. Do not give up. Five months is REALLY good -- you have made it FIVE MONTHS. Give yourself some BIG credit. Give yourself a hug. You have all our support!!

Please write!!

I'm still here. Weekend from hell. My husband contacted every member of my family multiple times and then some how got my home phone number and called the house. It was terrible, like he was right in the room. I've unplugged the house phone and assured him everything is fine between us and I've just been busy with the kids etc..... I'm calling the Marshalls tomorrow, if they don't have an arrest planned in the next few days I'm considering going on the news and outing him and them

What is your plan for outing them all? As I said, there may be contingencies of which you are unaware -- maybe he is part of a porn ring, or maybe he has other outstanding warrants. Maybe they know he is armed and dangerous. They may be planning a stakeout. It seems dangerous to me to risk alienating people who so far seem to be on your side, if not on your timetable.

I am so glad to hear from you. Definitely call the marshals and ask them what they can tell you of their plans. Even then they may be unable to tell you -- how do they know you're not colluding with him to alert him that they are on their way? (Really! People do all kinds of crazy stuff, like that mom who fled to Mexico with her son who killed four people when he drove drunk. The marshals in your case have to protect their operation.) It is perfectly reasonable, though, to tell them everything you are experiencing -- the call to your home makes me shiver -- and to express your concern that he may be suspicious. Those are just facts, and it may help them to decide how fast to act.

Keep checking in, please!!!

We were married for 8 years and together all the time continuously except for when I was working nights. He doesn't have any other warrants and isn't armed and dangerous. As far as a porn ring I find it highly unlikely as I controlled the internet usage in the home so if he ever did that it would have been on some other device somewhere but as I say we were always together except when I worked nights and he was home with the kids. The major problem I have is not "my timetable" he is babysitting his 7 year old niece. He did this to my daughter starting at the age of 8

I'm so sorry for all that you are going through, but please check with the US Marshalls and ask why they haven't arrested him yet, and tell them that this is getting unbearable for you, what all you are experiencing. Are they possibly having a problem tracking him down? That happened with our kids' offender; for almost 2 days he was doing all kinds of errands after work, then slept at his parents house instead of going to his home a few towns away, then got up and went to work, then did more errands and went out for a late dinner with someone. They didn't get him until he finally went home at 1:30am, and they had his home staked out. They didn't want to arrest him at work since he was a teacher in a nearby high school.

I know it seems far fetched that he's involved with some other nefarious activity, but it's actually quite possible he was able to keep something completely hidden; these people are masters at secrets and deception. He may have a phone and/or computer you don't know about.

You're so right to be concerned about the 7 year old niece, and maybe the Marshalls need to be reminded of that too, and that you are finding it really hard to not take matters into your own hands. Be careful with what you do though, you know their plan, at least to some extent, and you don't want to find yourself in trouble for interfering with an investigation. Hang in there, please know you have done everything right and you can let things play out the way they need to so it's all above board for charges and court decisions/proceedings/convictions to stick. My heart really goes out to you, know we are all here supporting you.... {{{hugs}}}