Good move. PTSD is an ongoing reaction to trauma. It sounds as if you have done right by your daughter in the past (and are doing so now), so perhaps your earlier actions were enough to help her heal to this point. I wonder if your daughter isn't reliving this not just because of her experiences, but because she is also worried for her cousin. Does her cousin (or do her parents) know about what happened to your daughter?

As for the teacher, you will give away nothing private simply by telling her that, while she couldn't possibly have guessed, there's an estrangement in the family, and it makes your daughter uncomfortable to hear about her grandmother. You can ask that she not share any information about your daughter with your MIL as MIL has lost her grandmotherly privileges including hearing about your daughter.

However, I suspect you would do even better if you were to share the gist of your situation with the teacher -- again, tell her there's no way she could have known this. But she is a mandated reporter, and she can keep an eye out for your niece/nephew, as well as for other students with whom your MIL may come into contact. I'm assuming you haven't prosecuted, or your MIL would be banned from situations that put her into close contact with children, such as those school functions.

I'm so sorry that this has happened to your daughter, and that she is suffering again. Of course, this means that YOU are suffering again. Be strong, do what you can to protect your child and others. Then, let God hold the weight you can't carry, and keep moving forward for the sake of your daughter.

I have spoken to the teacher and she offered so much support. My daughter is a straight A student so the teacher isn't concerned about taking time "off". She did tell me she will be looking for signs with the cousins. The aunt is well aware of the situation and still allows her to have contact with the kids. As for the events at school the monster will still be able to attend. I have started the ball rolling with a councilor and wrap around care.

Your daughter is so lucky. I hope her aunt doesn't live to regret her decisions regarding your MIL.

She will someday but for now the sister-in-law chooses the drugs over her children and the mil makes sure she dishes the money out to he to keep the kids going there
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Well, that raises my suspicions -- what happened to you SIL to create this sense of denial and distance? it's very common for adults who were sexually abused as children to develop serious problems with substance abuse. Gee, I wonder where that money goes? It's also common for adults with unaddressed issues about childhood sexual abuse to find it difficult to relate to their own children's needs. Maybe you could gently let the cousins know that you're always available to listen. Because you're aware of the danger they face, you may be their best link to safety.

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