Parents Whose children have been sexually abused Community Group

This group is for parents whose children have been sexually abused. We welcome both Mothers and Fathers. Here, we can offer support to one another. We can vent, cry and lift each other up. No condemning or criticizing allowed. We are here for support. We LOVE (((HUGS))) !

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ad0414 09/16/2013

Well, it has been a while since I posted. My father in-law accepted a plea offer. It was very difficult for me to hear him state he molested my little girl. I cried so hard in court. Now we are just waiting for his sentence. I had to write a letter to the judge and I cried so much I had to stop. It took me a couple of days to write. Now, it in the hands of the Judge. I hope the monster gets jail time but I do not think so. I am still very angry and wish him the worst pain a human can have. Summer is over, time is flying by and soon it will be almost a year later. There are days which I do not think about what happen, only if I am very busy. Is that okay? Being so busy every hour, so I do not have time to think about it? Thanks for letting me ramble.

deleted_user 09/16/2013

I am glad that your fil took a plea. It saves your baby from having to testify and your baby will always know that he admitted it.
Please don't beat yourself up for not thinking about what happened every second of your life. What you are doing is normal and emotionally healthy. I am sorry that you are in pain. Writing a victim impact statement forced me to clarify exactly how I felt. I am still angry, though so much less. Most of all, I am sad. Once the criminal portion is over, you can really get on the road to healing.
Praying for jail time and peace, and blessings.

Naive1 09/16/2013

Keeping your body and brain busy with matters unrelated to trauma is very healthy. I've spent much of the past few months feeling like a zombie, unable to concentrate on much else but my child's abuse. That is NOT healthy. It sounds to me as you've been doing some real healing, and I hope this plea deal with give you the satisfaction that justice worked in your case.

Naive1 09/16/2013

*will give you

deleted_user 09/16/2013

Here is a big hug! You are your daughter's hero! She is blessed to have such a amazing mother. I am glad that you reached out to us. And I am happy to hear that he took the plea.

Laura

cathymathy 09/17/2013

You are not rambling...it feels good to let it out....I am also happy he accepted theplea but wish there was lots of jail time...it should just be that way...I can only imagine your pain but forward is now what you can focus on. It takes alot of effort to not be consumed by this nightmare but sometimes we have to step out of it to gain perspective on the future. It will never go away but it does get better at coping.
Peace and love to your family.

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