Its been many months since I have been here.There was a time that I was here daily and sometimes hourly..My daughter was in a very dark place after disclosure,throw in puberty and you have a recipe for disaster.The abuse triggered mental health issues and we spent a few years in many different therapies,inpatient facilities and hospitals. I was convinced I would loose her,I checked on her multiple times at night to see if she was still alive.We lost family members who refused to support us.We have spent thousands trying to help her.My husband and my relationship suffered because of the stress.She is now 171/2, graduated high school,and very stable.She is happy and for the most part out of therapy.She can say her abusers name.She can talk about it as if it happened to someone else.She has a boyfriend.There is good therapy out there,don't settle,if it doesn't seem like a good fit or if you don't see progress then move on.If family is not supportive,distance yourself.Trust your gut!Don't let anyone tell you the abuse wasn't that bad or that it was just touching or at least it wasn't rape.ALL abuse is bad,just touching is bad.Read and learn all you can,insist on support,even from school.I know things I never wanted to know.I see things now that I don't want to see,in strangers and people I know.I watch for signs in family members and friends children.It will take everything you have in you to get through this,cry in private often,it's let's out some stress.Find a good therapist for yourself,yes for you.Looking back I see I was in shock for about 3 months.I wish I had started therapy right away.But luckily I had this group! Listen to the wise here,the ones who have been through it,you may think " that's not our situation" but believe me it is.But mostly know there is healing,full healing and there will be a new normal!
I'm pretty sure my son's half sister (3.5) is being abused by the same boy (my son's stepbrother, her half-brother) who abused him (and at least 4 others, according to my son's caseworker). The boy still lives with my son's father, and therefore her; he was never prosecuted because of his age. (My son does not see the boy. Visitation with his dad takes place at his grandparents' house.)She's...
Just an FYI, today (9/15/21) gymnasts are testifying before Congress about the FBI's handling of the case of Larry Nassar, a team doctor who abused one young female athlete after another. Worth looking up on C-SPAN if you missed it.