Parents Whose children have been sexually abused Community Group
This group is for parents whose children have been sexually abused. We welcome both Mothers and Fathers. Here, we can offer support to one another. We can vent, cry and lift each other up. No condemning or criticizing allowed. We are here for support. We LOVE (((HUGS))) !
Sorry I've been out of the loop here. Really appreciate you all big time. I am finding life exceptionally difficult to cope with. I know that dd13 is really struggling with depression, self-harm and not eating properly but I don't have it in me to really reach out and get alongside her right now.
As you might remember, I fell down our stairs two weeks ago. Had six appointments this week, including two emergency ones. Despite a relatively minor injury (torn ligaments in the thumb), I was diagnosed this week with a major complication affecting the nerves. It is a condition that is not well understood. The positive is that it has been picked up really early. This condition affects the central nervous system which doesn't switch off, resulting in constant intense pain, swelling, no ability to regulate temperature in the limb and more. When two doctors within two days tell you it's serious, you take note. I am still trying to process it, but no one can tell me the likely course of this disorder and there are no definite treatments that work. Have been started on a drug with significant side effects so the doctor is starting off slowly. It could affect my ability to drive. I am thankful that I am in counselling and being taught mindfulness, relaxation, distress tolerance skills and CBT, as I will need these even more. My gp (the doctor I see regularly) just looked at me when I gave her the note from the specialist and said "like you don't have enough challenges in life already".
I am trying to stay positive, but the reading I have done really scares me. I do see God's hand in this already as appointments just fell into place, I am in with some of the best people to help with this and it got picked up really early. Have taken matters into my own hands and put myself onto a course of cortisone. Been on it often enough before and I have nothing to lose and everything to gain. I know that stress really aggravates this conniption and I struggle with anxiety anyway. Really being forced to make changes.
On a more positive note, we have just seen a house we really like the look of and think it might be within our price range (it is by negotiation). We are all excited about it and will look at it tomorrow. We are hoping that a couple who looked at our house yesterday will buy it and then we have some certainty about timeframes. Once again, I'm sure that if it is meant to be then things will fall into place.
Will get back into things and need to make sure I keep life as normal as possible for myself (whatever that is).
Hugs and blessings to you all.
As you might remember, I fell down our stairs two weeks ago. Had six appointments this week, including two emergency ones. Despite a relatively minor injury (torn ligaments in the thumb), I was diagnosed this week with a major complication affecting the nerves. It is a condition that is not well understood. The positive is that it has been picked up really early. This condition affects the central nervous system which doesn't switch off, resulting in constant intense pain, swelling, no ability to regulate temperature in the limb and more. When two doctors within two days tell you it's serious, you take note. I am still trying to process it, but no one can tell me the likely course of this disorder and there are no definite treatments that work. Have been started on a drug with significant side effects so the doctor is starting off slowly. It could affect my ability to drive. I am thankful that I am in counselling and being taught mindfulness, relaxation, distress tolerance skills and CBT, as I will need these even more. My gp (the doctor I see regularly) just looked at me when I gave her the note from the specialist and said "like you don't have enough challenges in life already".
I am trying to stay positive, but the reading I have done really scares me. I do see God's hand in this already as appointments just fell into place, I am in with some of the best people to help with this and it got picked up really early. Have taken matters into my own hands and put myself onto a course of cortisone. Been on it often enough before and I have nothing to lose and everything to gain. I know that stress really aggravates this conniption and I struggle with anxiety anyway. Really being forced to make changes.
On a more positive note, we have just seen a house we really like the look of and think it might be within our price range (it is by negotiation). We are all excited about it and will look at it tomorrow. We are hoping that a couple who looked at our house yesterday will buy it and then we have some certainty about timeframes. Once again, I'm sure that if it is meant to be then things will fall into place.
Will get back into things and need to make sure I keep life as normal as possible for myself (whatever that is).
Hugs and blessings to you all.
Continue to stay positive and keep faith alive. I know it isn't easy but I know you are made of the toughest stuff. I hope you have found the house for you and may your body, mind and soul continue to heal.
HUGS, LAURA
I hope everything works out the way you want with the house. I will cross my fingers for you. All the best. :)
It's a problem, but what you read may be more alarming than the condition presents itself to you.
Hope all goes well and wish you speedy recovery.
Had a long cry and talk with a counsellor last night. I think that even crying helps to reduce symptoms! Gotta get good at relaxation -not part of my personality. Will look into downloads and see what I can find.
Thanks for the prayers and well wishes.
Be soooooo careful w Cortisone - it can exacerbate depression and insomnia and even cause psychosis. If you have had it before, you should respond to it in your usual way tho.
I also am a very strong believer that depression increases perception of pain...
Studies confirm this. So keep up your usual dose of Australian sunshine n try not to become homebound as a result of the RSD.
You're going to get better !!!!!
Thanks for being there for me.
HUGS, Laura