I am in a little over 6 months since disclosure. Our situations are different, it was my dad who abused our daughter. What I can tell you is that I look back now and wonder how we made it through those early days. It was so surreal. I truly thought that I had died and gone to hell for a full couple of weeks...I kept hoping that it was only a nightmare.
It does ease with time. Our daughter has been in counseling since the day after disclosure. I started going for myself about a month later. I had to in order to mentally survive this shit. This group has been wonderful-it is so nice to talk to someone who understands. Prayers, though, have been the biggest help for us. Not to be preachy or anything but God is the only one with the strength to pull us through.
What I learned after the initial shock wore off is that life goes on. We must still eat, sleep, work, take care of our families, ourselves, and each other. The laundry still awaits washing. And so I got up every morning and took care of what needed to be done. I found some comfort in these mundane tasks.
This experience has changed me profoundly as a human being. I no longer sweat the small stuff so much. I used to regularly get into physical confrontations-now I can barely think of putting my hands on another person in anger..even when they are just begging for a can of whup ass! I am so much stronger than I even imagined. My priorities have become crystal clear.
There are still days when I think I cannot go on but I must. And so do you. Take whatever works for you and run with it. On really bad days, only praying on my knees can get me through.
You can survive this and so can your daughter. Show her your strength. She too is strong. She told you at an early age and as hard as it is to know, it is a blessing. Your precious child has shown you her incredible strength. Lean on it to survive the next minute. Put one foot in front of the other and you will get to the other side.

Disclosure is hard but it brings freedom....Holding on and hiding it all is worse. It will allow you to face things straight on and if you know the truth and can face that each and every day than it will get easier, I swear. It will have ups and downs but the truth will set you free....It is really rough some day and you will question yourself and wonder why and just keep moving forward and telling yourself if you had known it may be different but now that you are aware you have control back and no one can take that from you. It has been 2 years for ma and I went through emotions I never knew existed. I felt horrible as I did not know and wondered how I could not but I realized there was nothing I could do about what was past...it was about the now and how I can move forward and help my daughters and be a better person. It is day to day but it will get better. You have to find what it is that makes you feel better, if its anger than let it out, if its sadness then let it out cry as much as you have to, but do not let him win. Stay strong and reach out as you have been. Feel the love and support and know you are not alone.

Currently 8 months since my 6 year old told me my fiance was abusing her. Its been a challenge,confusing, emotionally draining to say the least. But with therapy my daughter is doing amazing such a fighter snd so brave. Her step father is still under investigation so we have hope of justice. And i no longer tjink about it 24/7. Breathing has become easier the shock has worn off and im starting to be hopefully again for the future. Best of luck to you and your family. It will get better just one day at a time.

It hurts knowing that you all are here 4 the same reason but it helps knowing that you all are making it. It gives me hope. I have had the worse thoughts imagineable and I'm so so depressed!!! I feel like I am barely taking care of my girls!!! Making sure they eat, wash, get school work done and smile about something each day is all the energy I can muster. I am proud to say that I made it through a month but I can't imagine making it through another. Thank you 4 being here :)
O... my daughter is in counseling n loves it!!!! :)