Parents of Prisoners Community Group
A group that tries to share with each other how they deal with being a good supporting parent of a prisoner and the unique problems that arise. What to share or not, how to deal with spouse of prisoner, ex-spouse of, children of prisoner which we may not see either anymore,so forth
Hello,
I am new to this group and am struggling on telling my son that is almost 30 years old that I do not want him to come home to live with me when he is released. I love him but know in my heart that living with mom is not the answer to starting over when he gets out. I also know that it's not a good idea for him to come back to a city that he could reconnect with old friends and fall back into his heroin using habits and getting in trouble again. I had a friend tell me to just tell him that and that at 30 years old he needs to figure it out on his own. Looking for advice/suggestions.
Cissy
I don't think anyone is here.... Just like the rest of the stuff about "Kids in Prison," it seems to all be outdated information. Let me know if you find something new.
As far as your adult son living with you.... my daughter will be 30 years old when she gets out of prison. I have thought about letting her come to live with me, my husband, and our other kids. However, I don't know what would be best. Prison seems the type of place to harden the child you once knew... and who knows what they will be like when they get out. My husband thinks it is best to let her work for a place to live because that is real life, but I don't know.
Jewel
My wife and i are in the same boat. My 25 year old stepson will be coming to live with us soon. What concerns us is that our impressionable 14 year old is there. Our plans are to make sure that he gets counseling, and find a job. Also, we will have a strict discussion concerning rules in our household.
I understand what Cissy is going through. If her son is like my stepson, he has made a pattern of making bad decisions. We love and miss him, but his bad decisons negatively impacted our family and contradicted everything we attempted to instill in him. The stress he caused on the family was at times unbearable. Also, I believe that at a certain age, a man has to act like a man and not a child. He should be living on his own making his own decisions.