Parents of Prisoners Community Group
A group that tries to share with each other how they deal with being a good supporting parent of a prisoner and the unique problems that arise. What to share or not, how to deal with spouse of prisoner, ex-spouse of, children of prisoner which we may not see either anymore,so forth
My son was arrested a week ago, and I still don't know ... anything. The police, the Crown Attorney, the judge..everyone is looking at my son and the crime and wondering what is going on...like the lead detective says..nothing fits...but they have all this overwhelming evidence that he committed the crime. My ex told me at one of the bail hearings that its my fault this happened. I feel like the worst mom ever because if there is a mental illness..how did I not see the signs? How did I not get him help? And if he did this..where did the really good kid who wouldn't hurt a fly go? He was the good kid of our family. The one going to University, with the girlfriend and the new baby, with his whole life ahead of him at 20 years old. I just don't understand any of it.
My son was arrested and taken from us to prison when he was 21. He committed a computer crime and got nine years in federal.
Good luck with everything.
My son is 20, waiting for his sentencing hearing. He spent three weeks in jail in november as second charges in another state surfaced and extradition was possible. i was a mess, crying a lot. I didn't go see him in jail, his sister and step dad did.
I just could not stomach the security and i wrote letters but didn't go. He is probably going back and then to another state. He has been in residential treatment three times as a minor the fist time in kindergarten, then 7th grade then 11th grade. He had ODD and was violent, then calmed down is senior year after a six months in residential treatment. lost weight, started exercising and then did some stupid things. He was allegedly bipolar but I think he is just a con artist now.
I mostly want to distance my self and disappear. I don't have more energy to deal with his acting out he has been doing it since daycare. i have one working kidney and one eye with damage due to stress with years of trying to protect him. (a leaking retina). I feel "done" taking care of his wackiness. i have no patience for it. if he has to suffer, he does. it makes me so sad but I don't want to live out my life with him as the center piece, i did that for YEARS.
I wish us all peace. I don't know why we were picked for this. I wish I knew.