Parents of Prisoners Community Group

A group that tries to share with each other how they deal with being a good supporting parent of a prisoner and the unique problems that arise. What to share or not, how to deal with spouse of prisoner, ex-spouse of, children of prisoner which we may not see either anymore,so forth

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ohmyson 05/01/2017

Hello everyone, I just joined this group and read a few of the postings they could all have been written by me so I think I've found some friends. My son was arrested Sept. 2016 and is still waiting for his sentencing date. I have never been a person that cried easily and now it seems to be a part of my daily life. Nothing can prepare a Mom for this. The charge against my son has a mandatory minimum of 3 years and up to 25 years along with thousands of dollars in fines possible. This is a first time offense and as others have stated the penalty seems unfair for the crime. I have been careful who I tell what to because not everyone understands the hurt and grief of having a child in jail and I don't need the added pain of being judged myself right now. My husband and I do know a couple at our church whose son committed a similar crime 10 years ago and they have been a great support to us and wonderful prayer warriors on behalf of our family. I also have found great comfort in a daily devotional called "Jesus Calling" some days I swear it is written just for me. When my son was arrested he of course lost his job and his home since he would not be able to pay his rent. He lives 9 hours away from us and we had to take several trips to empty out his house, take his dog to the humane society, sell his car and take care of all his personnal affairs. It took us months to get power of attorney because the notary at the jail didn't have my son sign in the right places and we kept having to send the papers over and over. It seemed like one nightmare on top of another. We did find a site called JailATM that enables us to send emails to our son and that has been helpful and comforting. Since we're told not to mention his case in emails, letters or visits we just wait and pray hoping for the best possible outcome. Waiting is the hardest. He will probably be sentenced this summer and sent to a state prison which may be closer or further away for us to visit him and will bring on a whole new level of concern for this mom. I'm glad I found this online support group, I hope to be encouraged by all of you and I hope I can be an encouragement to you. Blessings to all.

Usugagal 05/02/2017

Hi my son was just out in jail today. He's not there as long as yours but nothing can prepare us. I'm hurting a lot. Leon county in FL is absolutely ridiculous

onescaredmama 05/02/2017

For me taking care of all the personal affairs has been gut-wrenching and heart breaking. My faith is the only thing getting me through this. I write scripture down for him and drop it in the mail since I don't think he's been given a Bible. I hope doing this will help him and he's able to memorize it!

Usugagal 05/04/2017

I'm writing my son a letter every day.

susieduty 05/08/2017

I Used to write a lot of letters , but after 4 years ,I just don't know what to write anymore ,everything stood still since my son was encarserated , only when I feel really depressed ,I will send him a card , but I love it when he calls me , I can tell if he's doing ok, we can laugh , he's staying busy, we are 500 miles away ,but we see him twice a year , there are some counslers that say if you can ,see your child every 3 or 4 months , I wish we lived closer ,I would visit a lot , but writing your son everyday is great , good for you ,

Ichris 05/14/2017

It never gets easier to see your child make destructive choices. You are allowed to be angry. Send him books to keep his mind active and write to him and let him know that you want to be there for him. Encourage him to take any resources available to him. Try to keep him informed of family activities and let him know you all miss him. Send photos. Some prisons have computers where you can do face-time and see each other online. Good luck.

ceedee 06/17/2017

I just found this group yesterday and it is helping me to read posts. Hello....I am wondering how you did tell people.

HeartJB 10/11/2017

I know how you all feel. My 18 year old is incarcerated and looking at more years than I thought. I too feel like I cry daily. He's been away for 6 months and it feels like an eternity. I pray for all of your children. They will always be our babies, it's what a mother does right? God bless you all.

mominTX 10/26/2017

I know about the crying unexpectedly. My 15 year old has charges, but not yet convicted. But I feel depressed. Mainly about the unknown, but also that this will change his life if charged as an adult (they are trying to certify him). I just feel like a failure as a mother. And I feel too ashamed to talk to anyone else. I go to counseling, but it's not the same. The counselor is not a mother, nor my friend. I feel alone. I have my husband, but I just wish I had a female friend / mom to talk to who wouldn't judge.

MaMaRayn 10/28/2017

Amen as God is our refuge and strength a very present help in trouble. My son is facing a life sentence and God is the only way for both if is. He is at peace and so amI because the Lord Jesus is on our side and he loves each & everyone of is and has already paid the orice for our sins. He is the reason I wake up in the morning and my son too

Ralston50 11/12/2017

You have a friend we are all going through the same thing

Iriseup 11/13/2017

Yes we all are going through the same thing I don’t talk about my son with other people they would never understand thank God for this site

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