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Does this sound like your child? startles easily. complains about scratchy clothing, seams in socks, or labels against his/her skin. doesn't usually enjoy big surprises. learns better from a gentle correction than strong punishment. seems to read my mind. uses big words for his/her age. notices the slightest unusual odor. has a clever sense of humor. seems very...
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Private Or Public School For A Highly Sensitive Child?
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Friday, August 07, 2009
Many parents debate over the issue of which type of school to send their kids to, public or private. What Highly Sensitive Children need is an environment that is:
Calm and organized: Highly Sensitive Children are easily distracted. A calm and organized environment helps them to focus on their school better.
Fosters higher learning consistently: When they learned everything they are given, much faster than the average children, Highly Sensitive Children frequently gets antsy and fidgety. Then they get bored and starting to act out. When faced constant discipline from the teacher for acting out, they could eventually lose their apatite for learning altogether.
Good morals are taught consistently: A high moral standard not only promotes good characters of Your children, but also promotes good characters of the children around them. If the children around them are good kids, your children would be treated well. Plus your children have a better chance of becoming friends with good kids. Negative influence affects Highly Sensitive Children a great deal.
Have genuinely caring teachers and aids: Good teachers literally transform Highly Sensitive Childrenâs lives. Often we found sensitive children tend to listen to and believe their teachers more than their parents.
However, do avoid to certain private schools where parental involvements are low and tuitions are high. Besides a good school environment, one of the main ingredients of having good children is parental involvement.
During our years of treating sensitive children, many parents with grown kids told us that, if they had to go back all over again, they would chose private schools over public schools.
That being said, however, if you live in a district where public school system is very strong, one with low teacher-to-student ratios, one with a great program for gifted children and caring teachers, your kids may do ok.
If you are not satisfied with your local public school but couldnât afford to pay the private tuition, homeschooling is a viable alternativeâat least worth a try, even if you are not sure you can do it right.
Donât forget, a sense of community is extremely important to Highly Sensitive Children. Good communities where parents and kids share the same values can help ground your children and help them to be confident about who they are and where they belong.
Dr. Harry Hong's comprehensive program specializes in the integration of a variety of natural healing therapies such as energy testing, allergy desensitization, homeopathy, Chinese medicine and acupuncture, enzyme therapy, flower essences, hyperbaric oxygen therapy and much more. The Healing Light Co is committed to provide quality special care to the Highly Sensitive Person with Highly Sensitive Body. We are located at northwest suburb of Chicago and have an Out-of-Town program as well. Form more information, please visit www.highlysensitivebody.com.
Private Or Public School For A Highly Sensitive Child?
(0)
Friday, August 07, 2009
Many parents debate over the issue of which type of school to send their kids to, public or private. What Highly Sensitive Children need is an environment that is:
Calm and organized: Highly Sensitive Children are easily distracted. A calm and organized environment helps them to focus on their school better.
Fosters higher learning consistently: When they learned everything they are given, much faster than the average children, Highly Sensitive Children frequently gets antsy and fidgety. Then they get bored and starting to act out. When faced constant discipline from the teacher for acting out, they could eventually lose their apatite for learning altogether.
Good morals are taught consistently: A high moral standard not only promotes good characters of Your children, but also promotes good characters of the children around them. If the children around them are good kids, your children would be treated well. Plus your children have a better chance of becoming friends with good kids. Negative influence affects Highly Sensitive Children a great deal.
Have genuinely caring teachers and aids: Good teachers literally transform Highly Sensitive Childrenâs lives. Often we found sensitive children tend to listen to and believe their teachers more than their parents.
However, do avoid to certain private schools where parental involvements are low and tuitions are high. Besides a good school environment, one of the main ingredients of having good children is parental involvement.
During our years of treating sensitive children, many parents with grown kids told us that, if they had to go back all over again, they would chose private schools over public schools.
That being said, however, if you live in a district where public school system is very strong, one with low teacher-to-student ratios, one with a great program for gifted children and caring teachers, your kids may do ok.
If you are not satisfied with your local public school but couldnât afford to pay the private tuition, homeschooling is a viable alternativeâat least worth a try, even if you are not sure you can do it right.
Donât forget, a sense of community is extremely important to Highly Sensitive Children. Good communities where parents and kids share the same values can help ground your children and help them to be confident about who they are and where they belong.
Dr. Harry Hong's comprehensive program specializes in the integration of a variety of natural healing therapies such as energy testing, allergy desensitization, homeopathy, Chinese medicine and acupuncture, enzyme therapy, flower essences, hyperbaric oxygen therapy and much more. The Healing Light Co is committed to provide quality special care to the Highly Sensitive Person with Highly Sensitive Body. We are located at northwest suburb of Chicago and have an Out-of-Town program as well. Form more information, please visit www.highlysensitivebody.com.
It's really good to see this in print.
He'll be starting school next year and I almost know that public school won't be right for him.
It wasn't for me either.
My son had more difficulty. Since he had effectively missed 3rd grade level, and in homeschooling I let them learn naturally and on their level at the time, he was a bit behind in a couple of areas. He was younger and in no way prepared for bullies, teasing, mean kids or having to do it 'that way". He was also in an elementary school that was 96% the highest socioeconomic class where we live. He was THE "poor" kid. I stood by him diligently, bolstering his self-esteem and fighting the system when necessary. Now, he is also in middle school. It is more diverse and he is doing well. Of course, he is going to be tall and is now the second tallest boy in the school (always helps to divert bullies). He is making friends and doing better with grades as he builds more confidence.
I have no regrets about the years homeschooling my children. We are much closer now than the majority of teen/mother relationships. We still tend to help each other with our homework. I help them, they help me, they help each other as needed. Both kids are much stronger in communicating, speaking to adults, in areas public schools miss a lot such as sciences and civics. Since we have always talked about everything, the kids just naturally talk to me about everything including dreams, fears, problems.
I have always talked to them about my own childhood, being different from the norm, what's good, what's hard and helped them explore their own strengths and weaknesses and how to work with them...especially in a society that it is not always easy to work with.
I would highly recommend alternatives to public school for HSP children, but sometimes, it just isn't an option. I am glad that my children are doing well and know that many do not. It is unfortunate that many parents do not understand the struggles their kids face. If you have no choice, it is very important to have open communication and support with the little ones.
One of my favorite stories from my son. His therapist had told him that it was a beautiful thing to be different and once when some kids were teasing him about being different, he just honestly told the kids that his therapist had told him being different was good. My son rolled his eyes a bit and said, "Well, that was the wrong thing to say. Now, I'm different and psycho!" He is so full of light and honesty, I can't imagine him going through something like this without love and support. It makes me very sad to think of so many children who do.
The first thing I want to say is, take a deep breath, and stop worrying. Not every child has a problem with school.
My daughter was very sensitive as a young child, yet seemed to do well in school. She has a few instances with insensitive teachers, and I made SURE that she was moved from a class, whenever she was with the wrong teacher. As long as you stay active with your child, it really helps. I worked in a preschool, as a volunteer, with my kids..So, I think that really helped. By observing them, I was able to see small social issues before they became big. Therefore, many of the little social issues/fears were resolved by the time they went to elementary school.
Not every child has problems in school, and many truly thrive.. Don't worry, because you don't want to manifest your own fears into a reality..! Energy follows energy and thought follows thought. Have an amazing day!
I have given a lot of thought to homeschooling. There is a growing movement in my area.
I agree, simplify. I forget that worry can get me the opposite of what I want.
My son does have advantages that I did not. While my dad was a gentle and kind guy, he did not stop my mom from pushing me into very damaging situations in school and other places.
I was super duper shy and those insensitive teachers.....
He may do really well with school!