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Does this sound like your child? startles easily. complains about scratchy clothing, seams in socks, or labels against his/her skin. doesn't usually enjoy big surprises. learns better from a gentle correction than strong punishment. seems to read my mind. uses big words for his/her age. notices the slightest unusual odor. has a clever sense of humor. seems very...
Although this is serious and really true, I also mean this in a very light hearted manner, as well. I have learned a lot from my kids. One of the things I have learned is to trust them as I would want them to trust me.
I cannot even begin to count the times that upon one small meeting that my daughter has said, "I don't like that person" or something similar. Each and every time, she was right on. Her ability to read people is amazing!
I cannot even begin to count the times that my son has said one small sentence, direct and simple, that cut the complete chaos of what I was experiencing down to the very core of the issue and was 100% accurate. His ability to understand the core of so many issues is amazing!
I can remember a time that I had at least some small thought that my kids were young and didn't understand "the adult world" or that issues were just too complex for them to understand all the ins and outs of it. I have 100% found this just not to be true.
When we went through the hell of an adult's abuse of a child, they stood strong and true. When all I wanted was silence, my daughter stood up and said, I will never be silenced again. When I was falling apart, my son stood up and said, it's okay, we will all be okay.
My children trust me and yes, they respect me. If I say, this is what will be, it is what will be. But really, I have learned through hard earned experience to listen to what they have to say because I have the same trust and respect for them.
Peace to you all...
I cannot even begin to count the times that upon one small meeting that my daughter has said, "I don't like that person" or something similar. Each and every time, she was right on. Her ability to read people is amazing!
I cannot even begin to count the times that my son has said one small sentence, direct and simple, that cut the complete chaos of what I was experiencing down to the very core of the issue and was 100% accurate. His ability to understand the core of so many issues is amazing!
I can remember a time that I had at least some small thought that my kids were young and didn't understand "the adult world" or that issues were just too complex for them to understand all the ins and outs of it. I have 100% found this just not to be true.
When we went through the hell of an adult's abuse of a child, they stood strong and true. When all I wanted was silence, my daughter stood up and said, I will never be silenced again. When I was falling apart, my son stood up and said, it's okay, we will all be okay.
My children trust me and yes, they respect me. If I say, this is what will be, it is what will be. But really, I have learned through hard earned experience to listen to what they have to say because I have the same trust and respect for them.
Peace to you all...
Sounds like you and your children are all where you ought to be and you make quite wonderful family!
The moist poignant thing he has said to me recently, was after we ran into my last church's pastor at a fast food place. My son hid, which he never does. Later I asked him why and he just said "I don't know, but there's something about him that's not right, (or I don't trust <I forget>)" and sure enough, that's exactly how I was feeling but I could not articulate it but HE could!
And since then I've learned some things about that pastor that make me feel that statement was 100% right.
Our of the mouth of babes...
I still, even after all I've learned, question. In a way, I think it is just life/the adult brain.
I know from my experience working at a Montessori school and with my own kids...the amazing amount of information that is "DRILLED" out of children instead of us adults opening up and listening!!!
While I was teaching in a Montessori school, it was the norm for us not to stop children from speaking their minds...and you cannot imagine how many of the young ones saw "auras" etc.
I am in no way perfect (and my children either)!!! Gosh, the mistakes we've all made and paid the price for!
But yes, the learning to listen ----- oh yeah!! Of course, there may be a chance that maybe my daughter is wrong with her "creep-dar" - that's what she calls it....or that my son's logic fails...but they are teens now and out of all these years...I've never seen them wrong!!!
There are too many times that I think I should have listened to what my kids had to say, or that I was wrong in what I was saying to them....
for that matter....even with fellow adults, I think so many times, we just forget to listen...
It serves as a good reminder for me.
For 11 years, I worked for the same summer camp. I always felt those kids hit my "reset" button every year, and pulled me back into the real and simple world we should be living in. I give them credit for keeping me sane in my teen years. Now my little one, at around one, started sizing up people. She climbs all over my friends (and mom-types who even give me good vibes). However, she stares frozen at people I would consider suspicious. Not only is she my personal bio-feedback machine, but my people-barometer too.