I have a daughter that is about to turn 48 years old. We haven't spoken in 3 years. She informed me that she no longer wanted to be a part of my family because she didn't feel that I was a very good mother and she didn't want to be associated with me anymore. This is a daughter that stayed home until she was 26 years old. I suppored her "trying to find herself" when I told her it was time she get out on her own and start living her life she began to be disgruntled. From the time she was 26 to when she was about 45 we communicated and I helped her through some tough times and she was very appreciative. After the last situation she didn't agree with my opinion so I asked her to not ask me for advice if she didin't want an honest answer. I have had continuous bad times, felt really bad about myself, carried a lot of guilt, lots of crying, lots of hurting inside because I couldn't find a solution. A last encounter with her was in February with some very long texting and very brutal hurtful things that she was saying to me I decided I needed some help. I found a counselor that specialized in parents of estranged children and I also found an excellent book that definitely needs to be read by every parent that has had to go through having an estranged adult child. The name of the book is "Done with the Crying" By Sheri McGregor. It is reassuring to know that other parents are having the same thoughts, same hurt and same experiences. Every single story is so touching. I highly recommend it. It's the kind of book you can pick up if you've had a bad day with the hurt of this. I'm working real hard on letting go of this child and moving on with my life. I have been miserable way too long. She will always be my daughter but I'm no longer going to use the energy that I have left in this world to have it bring me down. I am a good person and I need to focus on the three children that do love me for who I am. That is my focus.