I had my daughter late in life (35) and raised her alone.  My own childhood was very dysfunctional, but becoming a mother gave me an identity, joy and purpose I'd never known.  I loved everything about it, she was my reason for everything/decision I made.  We were our only family, us against the world, and as she got older, I gave her alot of freedom & trust, as she was always a good kid, and I was working, providing for us with no financial and/or emotional support.  I managed to by us a house, but by then, she was determined to get out on her own (granted, she was then 20), which she did, quitting her job & moving in with her cousin 400 miles away, in the middle of the day, while I was @ work and 2 weeks before Christmas.  I was devasted but tried to be supportive, while she pretty much "ghosted" me for the next 3 years, resentful that she was struggling financially (me too!) and had met a guy (who came from a a big family, the only thing I could not give her & I was distinctly excluded from).  When they broke up, she came back to live with me, had a felony DUI (this was in 2013), went into treatment & has turned her life around.  I have supported her through all of it, I was all she had &, of course, the mom-guilt of what mistakes had I made?  Fast forward to now, we actually work together (same office) and have a very good relationship, she has her meetings & friends, and I have ... well, my job. The last 10 years has taken it's toll on my self-esteem, but I know alot of that stems from my childhood.  Now, she has met another guy, this one not only comes from a big, close-knit family, but they have money too. I, subsequently, sold my house to pay for her legal fees, rehab, etc., and live in a tiny studio apt., while the new bf has his own house his parents bought him (he's 26!).  She's only known him for about 8 months, he's in Recovery too, and they've had some issues, he relapsed, they broke up, but now they are back together & she is determined to make this work.  She has met his parents (who have been married forever, unlike her loser-mother), travel (they have their own plane), and adore my daughter.  I have not met (or even talked to) ANYONE, it has not even been suggested (too soon?) and I really feel like I'm gonna lose her to these people.  I am old & alone, all I do is go to work, I feel like an embarrassment & can't possibly compete with what they have to offer.  Now, I know I've accomplished alot, I have a BScN, which I didn't do anything with, but I still make a decent living, was able to buy a house all on my own, expected it to be somewhere for holidays, etc. to spend with my daughter & HER future family, but that fantasy is shot to hell.  I really want to be a grown-up about this, but I vacillate between feeling like the biggest loser that walked the planet or straightup anger & resentment.  Any thoughts/advice, other than going into therapy, which I just started ...