I'm really sorry you are going through this. I think that young people are negative influenced by the adults in their life and they seem to be scapegoating on you. I feels terrible to be dumped on by everyone like this. You deserve better.

you sound like me.... so broken...but its been two years for me. I was a stay at home mom... life centered around my kids. then college, careers and any conflict that arises I am the reason for their insecurities.. its the entitlement age and I believe we raised selfish kids .. I was over the top wanting to make them feel loved, accepted and secured...I think I overdid it... now they are too busy, too smart and too together to waste time on me.. it does hurt..but I don't want anyone in my life if they don't want to be... I am moving forward and living for the Lord who wants to be the most important one in my life... I am so sorry and I do understand. the pain is unbearable...but you will grow stronger... hugs to you..

I'm experiencing the same thing. My ex didn't have a job when we divorced, left us in a house that was about to be foreclose and was having an affair but he convinced my son ( years later ) that I "stole" some of his child support? I raised both of my children to not steal. I could have gotten alimony and also had the child support raised up when they got to be teens but I didn't . My ex asked the judge to not make him pay child support for the first 3 months because he was out of a job. Of course young adults children ( in their mid twenties) may not understand all of this. I certainly didn't when I was that age but still I would have never called or believed my mother was a thief.
I don't think about the divorce much or even talk about it but that is just one of the many reasons my son has cut ties is something that his dad told him.
Im so confused. What is happening to this world? I sometimes wonder what I did to cause this. People that know me well say that they watched me and know me as a good mother. I have a brother who is a drug addictive, borderline personality and abusive. He is not in my life and I explained that to my children that it was for their safety . He can be dangerous and doesn't speak anyway. Maybe they think that since my brother is not in my life that it is okay to not speak to your mother? I am so heartbroken. I love my children and I thought they loved me . I didn't hear from them at Christmas or mother's Day. I must be a bad mother and just didn't see it? I wanted children soooo bad and never in a million years thought it would turn out like this but when I Googled it I noticed that it is pretty common but not talked about much. I became very depressed and thought that there wasnt' a purpose to continue living if I've lost the love of my children but then I came to my senses....some.....but it still hurts. I just ordered the book " No more of the Crying" and I hope I can figure out something. My kids live far from me....I would just like to hear from them sometimes.

I am dealing with my daughter bullying me then turning around and saying I am just to sensitive and paranoid. I finally said No More! She has the rest of my family believing that I am making things up and she has taken my grandchildren away from me. This is real recent for me so I can't be of much help but to say you are not alone.

I break my head thinking over and over what I did wrong. My title is "the bad one." Everything that is wrong in their lives is my fault. I too Googled all these symptoms, disorders, etc, that is affecting today's generation and found excellent books that explain this phenomena. Is not the parents' fault.
We gave them all the love, understanding, care we had. They, in return, feel is not enough so they want more. I am tired, sad but determined to move on.
I have so-so and bad days, but I will not return to where I was before.
Every situation is different. I pray God will give you peace.

Isn't it incredible what our children can do to us? There is no point in even thinking about the scenario of would we have done this to our parents, because we wouldn't have and it would not have been tolerated if we even came close to trying. I don't know what happened to this latest generation but I tell ya one thing, we abused parents are comparing notes and figuring out their narcissistic games. I wish all of you abused parents some peace in your life.

It is incredible! No, we wouldn't ever think of treating our parents this way because if we did, we wouldn't sleep at night thinking how badly we treated them. It's called having a conscience,, empathy, values and love. I hardly see those qualities nowadays, except during the holidays and mainly at soup kitchens and homeless shelters, but not with family.

wow, your stories sound like mine. Just out of the blue this happened, no explanation or reason. My ex husband and girlfriend say its all my fault and everything they've said my daughter has said almost word for word. I'm heartbroken, My daughter and I were so close. Now I hear nothing but lies from her that she has told her father. When she was around 8 she had really bad separation anxiety from me when she would go to her fathers. I hated that he had to call me to come get her on his weekends. I didn't want that for him. We started taking her to counselling to help with her separation anxiety. As soon as this happened with me and my daughter, no help suggested counselling he just through stuff that happened in our marriage instead of helping this situation. As long as my daughters there I have no chance of getting any kind of help with the situation or getting her speaking with me. I haven't seen her in over a year and a half. She's actually stopped speaking to my whole side of the family. She was so close with all of them. I'm devastated, heart broken, and wish something bad would happen to me cause I find it so hard to get through my days. I would never harm myself but I wish everyday something would happen to me. I have a debilitating disease already, my biggest fear is that I will end up dying never making a mends with my little girl.