lizmom-I can't tell you if it will get better any time soon but i can tell you for me just learning about ADHD and accepting it and knowing what to expect and learning how to deal with it helps a lot. My son is 13, even though he was just diagnosed in September, he's still had it for years. It becomes part of life and kind of normal evry day stuff. Yes, we have days sometimes weeks when he is unruly and I lose it but you have to recover and keep getting them the help they need whether they want it or not. Right now, mine is totally rejecting therapy. i had to pay him to get him to go last night. He totally resents me and that breaks my heart but I have to make it available to him. Hopefully he'll thank me when he's thirty.

my son is 11, he was diagnosed in 3rd grade. he is such a kind boy, but his impulses made him an outcast. it got so bad that by 6th grade, he was a mess. didnt want to go to school. the bullying would get so out of hand. after many therapy sessions and us working with him. we realized he couldnt do it on his own and put him on medication. vyvanse 20 mg. miraculous change. it took a couple of weeks for the adjustment. but two days he came home, and was staring out the window. i looked at him, and he said, mom, everyone is so nice to me now. i am so happy. i cried my eyes out, i held it in around him, but he is so happy now, grades are fabulous, everyone changed, if you would have told me this a year ago, i would have never believed you. never give up on your boy

I think Lowen22 is right...once you find the right medication/treatment that works for your son, while things may not be 100% better, they do get a lot better. My son had three weeks in a row of just horrible behavior...i finally couldn't wait for his next appt and immediately took him into the doctor so she could see his behavior first hand (mind you he is 5 and managed to get suspended). she increased his medication by only 5mg...MY GOODNESS what a difference that has made. my sweet little boy is back and everyone has commented how its like having the old Wyatt back. He is happier and proud that he's no longer getting in trouble...the kids are starting to be nicer to him as well.

Hang in there. It does get better, at least it did for me. My son was the complete outcast from kids and teachers alike. He was failing school miserably ( in the third grade he read at kindergarten level) , and always in trouble, in the evenings to do all the make up homework for the week he "forgot" to turn the work in I would have to physically hold my son down, he would have no impulse control and I had to come home from work one day because he was chasing my daughter with a knife.. It got to the point where the school told me that i either get my son tested or he "would not return to school." There was always the stigma that went with ADHD I didnt want my son to be tested for that. I always thought teachers used it as an excuse. But I got him tested. Now I have a very intelligant caring son. He has made honor roll every single year of Junior high. There are days he will try and refuse to take his medications and invariably he will get in trouble at school for being so hot headed, but all in all it has changed our world. ADHD is a very scary thing because there has always been such a "stigma" that goes with it. Luckily the pediatrician I found for my son has ADHD as well as one of her boys so she knows first hand what I am dealing with. I do hope it gets better for you soon. Hold your head up, and make sure every day that your child knows you love them even when they are "bad". Consistancy and understanding help a lot.

I sometimes wonder the same thing. my son is crazy hyper at home. I have 4 kids and they are all good kids but my 4yr old one of my twins is so hyper I cant take him anywhere cuz he wont stay with me and he wont pay attention to what he does so he hurts him self sometimes like falling or running into things. then he screams like there is no tomorrow. but he does good in school wich mind you is only 3 hours a days, he has had a few bad days but his teacher does not think he has Im like your kiding but he will show it big time next year Im waiting for the teacher to call me and ask me how I do it. well I tell you this if you get help for your little one and find what works it will get better. my daughter has it and she is 6 she is on concerta,. before she started taking this stuff omg omg omg she was off the wall and she would scream over the stupid little thing and your like its fine just pick it up. she still needs help being reminded that its ok but she is doing alot better and she is coming home now with reds and that is the best at her school. it should be green but ya. anyway bug diff since last year and she was so far behind she almost had to repeat kindergarden. well hope this helps it will get better,.

I find that it goes in waves. My daughter is 14 and was diagnosed in first grade and started meds in 2nd. Things have gone along pretty well, but I have empowered myself by always learning constantly about ADD, talking to others about their experiences, and having a support group. My main support group is a small group at church, so it is unrelated to the ADD issue, but we support each other in many ways. I don't know if I would want to be in a regular support group with only people dealing with this issue, but meeting in small groups with others to deal specifically with these topics can be helpful so you don't feel alone. Plus, you get to learn other options for dealing with it. The first thing you must do is empower yourself. Contact your local mental health department to see what they offer in the way of support for free. Contact your child's county school main office to see what they offer to support you. Attend a local CHADD support group, to at least get resources. Things will get easier with medication (for maybe even for you, as well as your child!! Anxiety medication can really help, but talk to your doctor!), but you have to feel so control by becoming knowledgeable. Let your child know that you "are a team" in this! Then, when you begin to see any glimmer of a positive result, praise him specifically so he will know that you are not just all about fussing at him. Good luck!

i will get better....we just this last few months have had our ahhhhhhhhh moment.....meds right, teachers on bord and track......thats our combo....just keep trying untill you find it ...