Parents of Children with ADHD Support Group

This community is designed as an open forum where the parents and guardians of children with ADHD (Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder) can give and receive support, as well as discuss ideas, techniques, concerns, surprises, and challenges they may face with their children.

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JennS 03/14/2012

I've tried getting him up early. We tried taking away his computer time but he just won't get ready on time. He's 13 years old. We just changed is meds. dosage, again. This morning he fooled around and fooled around until he finally left. He will be a half hour late or more! I nagged him to go but he just cursed at me then kept fooling around. This kid is impossible! I'm afraid to his future if he can't get up and leave for a job on time! I don't want him living with me all his life! He makes me crazy! He has me so stressed out that my health has gone down hill conserably.

CAWriterMom 03/15/2012

Let him suffer the consequences. I hit my limit with our nine-year-old's crazy mornings and finally decided he could just go to school in his pajamas if he wasn't going to get ready in time. I got out to the car and amazingly, he finally got dressed. :)

He also refuses to do homework frequently and I've learned not to take on the stress myself. He gets to go to school with it incomplete and suffer the consequences at school. I think he learns a lot more from that than from seeing mom flip out.

Good luck! I know it must be very frustrating.

lowen22 03/16/2012

if he is fooling around and not getting to school on time. it means he can, he just doesnt want to because he wants to drive you crazy. i would walk away from the whole situation. give him directioins, no longer make his breakfast or lunch until he gives you some respect. it sounds silly, but when my kids,, any of them or not nice to me in any way. they know i will not do a thing for them. cook, clean laundry nothing, ill put it in there room and say, why would i do that for you when you are not nice to me, i do it calmly, and walk away. i wouldnt want them to allow themselves to be treated that way, so why should i. believe me, in the begining, he will gladly accept your challenge and become the biggest nightmare he can be. but if you stick to your guns, dont argue with him, i bet he comes around, and in the end he will be a happier boy. good luck. none of this stuff is easy,

lovejl 03/16/2012

I agree with letting your son suffer the consequences. Tardies to school probably add up to detentions once he receives a certain amount. My son is now 18 and is to graduate this school year, but he has finished his required credits so he is out of school early. My son started with the fooling around in the mornings and making himself late when he was in the 11th grade. He would miss his rides and would have to walk to school (we are a mile from the school) which caused tardies which caused detentions. Our kids just get to an age where we can't monitor them 24/7.

Listen, I won't go into gorry details about my son but we had to recently ask him to leave our home. He decided that he didn't have to respect our rules, our boundaries, and continually did things that were unacceptable to our beliefs and morals. My health has been suffering and I've had to go on medications. So please take care of yourself - especially the stress. It's very hard to do this while you're trying to raise your 13 year old and you have more years to go to get him through school and out on his own. The frustration can build beyond belief. Find things that you can do to help your stress. I am also afraid of our sons future but at some point we had to let him go and make him understand that we can't deal with the stress and daily drama anymore. So hang in there, and I really hope things will get better for your son and for you. Take Care.

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