Parents of Children with ADHD Support Group
This community is designed as an open forum where the parents and guardians of children with ADHD (Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder) can give and receive support, as well as discuss ideas, techniques, concerns, surprises, and challenges they may face with their children.
I am a "Mother Against Facebook". I am finding that the more I talk with people that have children with ADHD/ADD and that child has a facebook, there are problems. Because our kids are impulsive, don't think ahead, and don't always understand the consequences of what they are doing, having a Facebook has added an extra caution for us parents. I have two kids, age 17 and 19. I am finding it harder and harder to control what my kids are putting on facebook. Those of you with younger children may monitor what your kids are doing now, which is great. But what about when they get older? Unless I am wrong, I don't see where there are any parental controls on facebook --- if anyone knows of anything, please share with us.
I have a 19 year old daughter who went away to college for the fall semester as a freshman. She had a facebook before she left for college and we monitored it all the way until she left to live on campus. She is not back in college for the spring due to a "slew" of reasons, one of them not being able to control herself on the computer (facebook posting, facebook games). By the way she is ADD/inattentive. When she was away during the fall, we noticed her facebook going down hill. She was cussing up a storm, posting disgusting filthy talk with others and down right being mean to other people. As a parent of a 19 year old, we tried talking with her when we saw what she was doing and explained that lots of other people could see what she was posting. Like I said, she didn't go back for Spring semester because of her behavior and she failed every class she was taking.
We shut down her texting on her phone for 3 weeks and had her clean up her facebook and we are requiring that it consistently be cleaned up and that we would be checking on it. She didn't like it and I hated to treat her like a child but it had to be done. This is why I don't like facebook. It gives kids way too much freedom without parents knowing what to do -- this technology is all new to us.
I just wanted to share my story because some of you may be struggling with what your kids are posting and doing on facebook. Thanks for listening.
I have a 19 year old daughter who went away to college for the fall semester as a freshman. She had a facebook before she left for college and we monitored it all the way until she left to live on campus. She is not back in college for the spring due to a "slew" of reasons, one of them not being able to control herself on the computer (facebook posting, facebook games). By the way she is ADD/inattentive. When she was away during the fall, we noticed her facebook going down hill. She was cussing up a storm, posting disgusting filthy talk with others and down right being mean to other people. As a parent of a 19 year old, we tried talking with her when we saw what she was doing and explained that lots of other people could see what she was posting. Like I said, she didn't go back for Spring semester because of her behavior and she failed every class she was taking.
We shut down her texting on her phone for 3 weeks and had her clean up her facebook and we are requiring that it consistently be cleaned up and that we would be checking on it. She didn't like it and I hated to treat her like a child but it had to be done. This is why I don't like facebook. It gives kids way too much freedom without parents knowing what to do -- this technology is all new to us.
I just wanted to share my story because some of you may be struggling with what your kids are posting and doing on facebook. Thanks for listening.
My son is ADHD, adopted, on meds, has some issues, and impusivity is one major one! I am SO worried about him. We are using the opposite approach right now: My husband is installing that keystroke program and we are then going to monitor what he is doing.
When he is no longer living with us, than it is on him. he is going to have to learn to control himself somehow.
I called FB. Once a kid is 14 (yes, 14!) There is nothing you can do. They can set up their own FB account! We got a call the other night from some company and were able to trace that they got our number from son's FB account. I immediately made him take the phone number off his profile! I am afraid that if I take it away completely, he is going to find a way to continue to do it and I won't be able to monitor what he is doing.