We have taken on our 8 year old nephew, he is undiagnosed FAS and ADHD. We are doing all that we can for him, We have only had him for about a month now, and are seeing lots of changes. Some of the things he has been exposed to ( violent movies games extra) would be hard on a regular kid, let alone him. He had gone from having take out 4-5 times a weeks, to once in a month. We eat mostly organic, so that had been big help. He now has no TV in his room and limited computer, and games. He now has a strict bed time on school nights. ( use to live off 3-4 hours a night) We are in the process of getting diagnosed, dealing with social services ( mostly needed money) been working on getting him counselling. The school has been great! Keep in mind this child has now been moved from the only home he new with his grandma ( Mother in Law) to a new city way up north, to live with an uncle and aunt he only sees once or twice a year. Even with that he is doing way better with us. His teacher is amazing, how she puts up with him all day I have no idea. I just read some of the evaluations she dose every week for him. ( dropping them off at the Dr tomorrow) She is a amazing woman. The principle is just as good. The school councillor, has been a big help too. He has been with us a month and is improving everyday. His teacher says she has never seen a student like him that wants to be better, that wants to be there, that cares, and is trying so hard to control himself. That normally kids like him do not care. We are doing all that we can for him. He has even asked to call us mom and dad. ( we have a 5 year old and an almost 3 year old boys of our own ) He has gone over a week with out wetting the bed. Even with all of this he need meds, and we are working on it! I have only had him for a month. I want to at least try it. If it dose not work, than off he well come. My husband and I have never liked the idea of meds, but this case is just so different. This kid is like this because his birth mom drank and did drugs the hole pregnancy. Have to do what we can to help him. He is so smart! He can spell better than any 8 year old I know, and gets all of his spelling words right! I am dyslexic so this is truly amazing to me. Hell I ask him how to spell things!
The poor kid struggles everyday, and after noons are so hard on him. The councillor has been trying to read to him everyday after lunch, and they are going to set up for a grade 7 student to do it. Would love advice from anyone and everyone on how to help him with his afternoons, and anything else for that matter. I have no idea what I am doing. Everyday I am amazed that we made it. I have been taking it day by day min by min. Please share anything that works for your kids when they are worked up. He likes to fidget and dose bite his nails. something to deal with that would be nice too. Oh and the fact that he won't leave my 2 year old alone! EVER! He can't seem to do anything on his own. A big problem in our house. My boys like to play alone. Please help me help him! Oh we have put him into Judo 2 times a week. He never got to do anything out side of school before un less it was a movie. which he dose not get to do anymore either. lol.