I am struggling with my daughter being away in recovering because her therapist tells her every week that her addiction has made me sick.  Though I do not deny that I have certainly done things to enable my daughter including not following my gut I really struggle with these comments since this therapist has not spent more than 10 minutes on the phone with me at anyone time.  This came shortly after my daughter was discharged from partial hospitalization to IOP and the recovery organization dropped the ball and I questioned how this could happen.  First, I was notified on Tuesday that they wanted 900 dollars on Friday for the sober house.  I was told they would take my daughter and whoever else was moving to IOP food shopping for the basics.  On the day of discharge I received a phone call from my daughter telling me her cell phone was disabled when they turned it back on, the gift cards we sent two weeks earlier were lost, and they did not take her shopping( lucky I sent her a nice care package).  She was left at the sober house without orientation and no phone numbers of the house manager and no phone to call anyone.  She was expected to figure out how to get 80 blocks to Walmart without having the ability to look up the bus stop or call for an Uber. She called me and I arranged for an Uber on my card and paypal her money to get a phone so she could at least have some way to communicate and get herself around.  After Walmart I received another phone call from my daughter crying that she was now at a Coffee place because she couldn't get into the sober house because no one gave her the acces code without any internet on her phone I called the recover main number and told them where she was and all she needed was the code to get into the house.  Shortly after this I noticed she began to report more and more about the therapist telling her I was sick.  In reality I know she needs to figure things out for herself but she did not have any phone numbers but mine.  I am fearful that this will drive my daughter away from finishing the last few months of recovery.  Since I am visiting my daughter in a week I offered the therapist an opportunity to meet with both of us on a day I am available.  The therapist has yet to address this offer. 

I am finding myself very stressed everytime my daughter calls with worrying about her.  I also should mention I believe what she says because the therapist has told me the same thing on the phone.

Just looking for support- and advice

Thanks