I think you are probably right not letting him live with you. That's a bit of a soft landing and is likely to lead to relapse. I remember when we let my son come home and he pretty much stayed on the couch watching TV, fighting with us and making a mess for 18 months. Once he was there, it was very difficult to get him out.

That said, there are other options besides staying in Florida and living at home. If he's going to relapse, he can do that in Florida too.. You have a say in whether he can live in your home, but it's his decision what city to live in. You could help him find sober living or other solutions in your home town, but not in your house. You could help him find a job. That's supporting sobriety.

For my own son, I"m sure others with say it was enabling, but I did what I could live with and afford to do. We had to get him out of our house. I got as far as having his things packed and was ready to drop him off at a homeless shelter, but couldn't follow through. Instead, I set him up in an efficiency apartment and signed a one year lease under the condition that he start on Suboxone or methadone and get a job. Recovery has been slow, but effective. That was five years ago. He is still on Suboxone and tapering off. He had a series of part-time jobs followed by a full-time job for a year. Now he just quit the job and is in school. Was it a risk? Yes. We could have signed the lease and found ourselves stuck with the bill while he partied for a year. There were times we thought it was a mistake, especially during a long period of depression and unemployment. In the long run, though, it was the right choice for us.

That decision is totally up to you. No one can make it for you. Whatever you decide, don't hold on to any guilt over it and don't fall into the sympathy trap. We addicts are very good at manipulating loved ones with feelings of guilt. IF you decide to let him come home, make it conditional upon his staying clean and sober and trying to find a job to better himself and stick to those condition. Even make him sign a promisary note and have it notorized so that if he doesn't stick to it, he will be evicted.

I am speaking as a former addict myself. I hope for your sake, he is still sober but If he was kicked out of the halfway house, there is a reason for that. It's a red flag to me. We were great liars and knew how to get what we wanted so be fore warned!

I hope he straightens out and I hope you can find some peace.

God Bless

I want to talk to you. My son is addicted to meth and arguing with me. I have tried support groups and therapist, I wan to talk to someone who has been there. Can we talk?