How old is the child? It sounds like he needs a psychiatric evaluation.

How does the dad help him? If at all? Kids need a role model.

Sounds like you are having a very bad day. Do you have someone near you, like a family member or husband who can give you emotional support?

We will pray for you.

God Bless

My teen is 16 and a half .He has a loving father( my husband).We are a regular family with no trauma, history of mental issues or substance abuse. It is like he retaliates even more when we parent him.The only way to get along is to overlook his pot smoking and I know he might do other stuff. He has been to psychiatrists but he is not compliant with the meds. I joined naranon group but i had to quit because i leave in a small town.... and people knowing about this would hurt me . I think i will try an online naranon group. I read that parents need to detach from the addict . I am still thinking how detaching would look like in my situation because he is a minor. I think he might change one day .... but there is nothing I can do about it right now. I think he has to walk his on path...
Perhaps I could make him go back to rehab but It will probably fail because he needs to want to quit.
My son is more stable today ...as long as we don't bring out the drug subject. Today I am going to detach and do something I like, just for myself.Thanks for listening.

Here is their websight. They have lots of useful information on it that will help you.

https://www.nar-anon.org/what-is-nar-anon

We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

God Bless

I'm sorry. This sounds very much like my son when he was a teenager. He had ADD, which was untreated. Now he's 28 and it's only recently that he's finally off the last of the drugs and alcohol. My first observation is the behavior you are describing does not sound like marijuana. It sounds more like pills, synthetic marijuana (Spice) and/or opiates. Marijuana tends to make a person more relaxed, lazy and sleepy. Spice is smoked like marijuana, but it's not the same and is laced with chemicals. My son was briefly addicted to Spice and it was the worst drug that he ever took. It made him very angry and abusive. That's really saying something because he was addicted to opiates, benzos and marijuana and also routinely took Adderall (snorted), Ketamine, Ecstacy, and just about anything he could get his hands on. This was all combined with alcohol. I don't know how he is alive today. Eventually, opiates were the biggest problem. He started with morphine, moved up to OxyContin and then to heroin. This is the normal progression with opiates.

I think the most important thing is to know what you are fighting. I really don't think it's marijuana. Xanax is one possibility, but there may be more. If you find any random pills, you can look them up on pillfinder.com. Also look for unusual things that you might not think of as drug related. Cut-off straws are for snorting. You might find black, sticky smudges or tiny zip-lock bags the size of pills. If he went to rehab, they probably got information from him about what he was taking and they probably did drug testing. I used to bring home at-home drug tests from the pharmacy. It was a major battle to get him to take it the first time, but eventually he did.

Also learn the physical signs related to particular drugs. Look at his pupils. If they are pinpoint, that's opiates. If they are huge, that's LSD.

The other issue is that he is getting the money from somewhere to pay for these drugs. They aren't cheap. Where is he getting his money? I eventually figured out that my son was stealing cash from our wallets and was pawning jewelry, electronics, and other valuables. Look for anything that's missing and lock up anything of value.

I know that AA and Nar-anon will tell you to detach, and that's for your emotional health. But, he's still a teenager. For me, I felt the need to take charge and do whatever I could. His privacy was out the window. He'd routinely leave his Facebook page open so I could read messages back and forth. That helped me find out who was dealing the drugs. I also sometimes managed to get access to his text messages.

My son went to a really good program at Rosecrance in Rockford, Illinois. He was back on the drugs within days when his friends snuck him out of the house. They explained that success rates were the same regardless of whether the patient wanted to be sober or not. Years later, when he was ready to get sober, he remembered what he learned there and says it was worth it. I also got enormous benefit from the family program.

If you don't want to do rehab again, then at least have him see an AODA counselor, If he gets into any legal trouble at all, they will probably require it. Have him sign a release so you can get the results of the drug tests they will give him.

Good luck. You're in my prayers.