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I have a friend, who also happens to be my neighbor, a few houses down. She has 2 boy who are 11 & 12 and my son is 11, so they ride the bus together and are in a lot of the same circle of friends.
My son has some special needs, but nothing that these kids would know about. The younger boy is always mean to my son and says things like "shut up" or "who cares" when he talks to him, especially when they are on the bus together around other friends.
I told my son to just keep his distance, but he said that this boy comes to sit near him. Sometimes he is very nice, but they boys can be a bit on the wild side and do have anger streaks in them, which I think comes a lot from the parents. My friend can also be extremely moody and yells quite a bit at the boys.
My son has told him that he is not being nice, but it does no good.
Do I tell this friend what is happening or do I let them work it out? My son can be very sensitive, so this will bother him if it keeps continuing.
My son has some special needs, but nothing that these kids would know about. The younger boy is always mean to my son and says things like "shut up" or "who cares" when he talks to him, especially when they are on the bus together around other friends.
I told my son to just keep his distance, but he said that this boy comes to sit near him. Sometimes he is very nice, but they boys can be a bit on the wild side and do have anger streaks in them, which I think comes a lot from the parents. My friend can also be extremely moody and yells quite a bit at the boys.
My son has told him that he is not being nice, but it does no good.
Do I tell this friend what is happening or do I let them work it out? My son can be very sensitive, so this will bother him if it keeps continuing.
If you are worried about your friend and the circle of friends that are involved, then just be cautious about how you approach it, and be sensitive to everyones feelings that are involved. At the same time, your friend needs to know what kind of affect this is having on your child. After all, I would hope that she would not want her children to feel the way your son does, or be treated that way. You do need to say something about it though..otherise it is just going to continue and may potentially get worse.
Good Luck to you and hope all goes well!
If he is going to act like he's 4, then he is to be treated like he is 4. The parents would intervene right? He is plenty old enough to know you don't torment people on the bus...maybe subtly remind him the cameras RECORD everything on the school bus, and some have sound...that one's worked with my kids...(which, we do have cameras)
Anyway, talk to her about it, tell her it's been going on since school started, you tried to let your son handle it, but now it's gotten out of hand and is affecting his day more often than not, so if she would please talk to her son about it - that would be great...IF you sense her reaction is negative, or defensive, throw it out there that you know boys will be boys, but your son has a lot on his plate this year and doesn't want the added stress of the bus situation...leave it at that.